boeair Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 Does anyone have thoughts about what makes a person intense? I think I am a pretty normal, funny, relatively easygoing, quiet at times person... but recently a female friend of mine told me that I was a very intense personality...sort of alluding to that being the reason i was single... I am now confused about what is wrong with my personality... any thoughts? thank you all !!
Krytellan Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 Hmm, do you often question people about what they say or make people explain everything that comes out of their mouth? I know people like that and I would call them intense.
Author boeair Posted January 28, 2007 Author Posted January 28, 2007 i used to do that... but havent been doing so in the past year..as i became more comfortable with myself...
Storyrider Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 If I were to say someone is intense, I would mean that person takes topics seriously that are meant to be lighthearted, and pursues his own interests relentlessly in conversation, without much regard to the needs of other people.
lindya Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 I find people overly intense when they're so focused on a single issue that they fail to pick up on other people's subtle "pipe down, I'm tired and not in the mood for this" or "back off, and stop getting angry just because I don't feel as strongly about this as you do" messages. Or deliberately disregard them.
luvtoto Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 but recently a female friend of mine told me that I was a very intense personality...sort of alluding to that being the reason i was single... Do you consider her a good friend? If you can talk to her again, ask her nicely what she meant by saying that. A bit of constructive criticism never hurt anyone. Getting constructive criticism from one of your lady friends might be very beneficial! I think it's good that you are trying to better any personality weaknesses you might have. That shows strength and character. Every once in a while, I'll get criticized. First, I consider the source! If it's someone who cares about me, then by all means, I'll put my ego aside and listen to them.
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