Guest Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 I need an objective mans point of view, please!!! The problem is simple - I really like one of my good guy friends. What makes it complicated - our history as friends! Friends for 5 years, met in college - pretty much both liked each other but never had the balls to do anything about it. I got over my crush fast but not sure if he did and I feel like I teased him a lot in college and after - our first kiss was drunk - i shoved him in photo booth and the kiss was surprisingly great, but i was hooking up with his good friend then so nothing came of it....and since then weve just been friends, tried to set each other up, always talk about the opp sex, etc.....cut to: me six weeks ago, (after i came to the realization I really like him) I tried subtly hitting on him.....but was having trouble b/c I don’t want him thinking I’m teasing again. The following day I text him: fyi that was me throwing myself at you last night (he joked earlier that week that ive never done that to him). He had no response - I later found out he had no idea I was trying. So I planned on taking him to dinner (but he ended up paying) after Xmas to exchange gifts and be direct and tell him my feelings - (btw he got me a shirt that said ‘Boy Chaser’ - good or bad?) -- but I wussed out once he started talking about his current hookup (shes 35, we’re 25) He says ‘the sex is great’.That night we met up friends at a bar, got drunk, we made eye contact the whole night, talked alone, he walked me to my car but i couldnt drive so I ended up staying at his place -- took off my jeans, got in his bed, and passed out. No moves. Now I fear he thinks I’m the biggest tease ever! I’ve asked to hang out three times since then to tell him but hes been ‘busy’. And I know he seems to be into the 35 yr old more now. So...question remains, should I make it a point to see him and tell him now, or should I wait until the fling with the 35 yr old is done??? I just want to know what hes thinking and need to hear a guys mindset!
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