Agent M Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 ...could you please explain to me exactly how you have sex without getting emotionally attached??? I am just interested in knowing, I find it rather fascinating....
Arianna72 Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 I sure would love an answer to that as well.
Author Agent M Posted January 28, 2007 Author Posted January 28, 2007 Thanks Arianna....hopefully someone will comment!
magichands Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 Put a bag over their head, or keep your eyes closed. (In short: never look into their eyes!)
Porn_Guy Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 its easy...our brains are wired differently. why are women's lives based upon feelings and emotions?
pricillia Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 its easy...our brains are wired differently. why are women's lives based upon feelings and emotions? It is simple.. Because Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus...
Author Agent M Posted January 28, 2007 Author Posted January 28, 2007 Put a bag over their head, or keep your eyes closed. (In short: never look into their eyes!) Yup yup yup. A nympho friend of mine told me the same thing....also said that you have to keep a variety of women on hand so as not to get stuck on one...true??
Author Agent M Posted January 28, 2007 Author Posted January 28, 2007 its easy...our brains are wired differently. why are women's lives based upon feelings and emotions? Don't know, but it sure takes a lot of the fun out of a simple, lustful, shag!!
Walk Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 I believe women are capable of having sex with out emotional attachment. Look at couples where the women has checked out of the relationship but still having the obligatory sex on occasion. I think anyone could disassociate enough to not become emotionally attached while having sex. But that women have a much harder time in doing that. A few factors affect women differently than men when it comes to sex.. There's the psychological aspect of being "entered", a social conditioning in the belief that women are "emotional creatures", combined with the belief that women only have sex for emotional reasons. The stigma that a women could have sex without love is usually labeled with such lovely words as "slut", "whore", etc... Social stigma. Why can men have sex without emotional connection? Maybe because most men are encouraged to disassociate from their feelings at a young age. Maybe because they have learned to view sex as a tool of release. Possible other reasons include: control, power, peer pressure to have sex with more women without actually having desire to to. Or guilt, fear of rejection, low self-esteem/low confidence that manifests into attempting to "prove" he's a man by having sex with more women and attempting to "act" out roles they percieve real men would act like. Just a hypothesis.
Author Agent M Posted January 28, 2007 Author Posted January 28, 2007 I believe women are capable of having sex with out emotional attachment. Look at couples where the women has checked out of the relationship but still having the obligatory sex on occasion. I think anyone could disassociate enough to not become emotionally attached while having sex. Yes...I do remember having that awful obligatory sex...so perhaps it is that women are "capable" but as in my case, less willing then men. Maybe many women are more likely to choose men to whom they are emotionally attached, rather than those they aren't. However, for me personally, it would be nice to be sexually attracted to men I'm not necessarily personally attracted to....it sure gets cold and lonely this time of year, out here in the hills.........
D-Lish Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 After my marriage broke up- I had sex with a man for almost a year without loving him... it was all about the sex. I think it was about timing for me- I had no inclination to be emotionally attached at that time....so I was able to do it. It got complicated because he wanted a relationship- and I didn't. So eventually i simply walked away.
magichands Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 After my marriage broke up- I had sex with a man for almost a year without loving him... it was all about the sex. I hope you didn't get bedsores.
Woggle Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 Because can put things in com partments much easier than woman can for the most part. There are exceptions but this is how it is most of the time. Men have women that you just sleep with and women that you form a relationship with and the type of women are very different from each other.
D-Lish Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 I hope you didn't get bedsores. I did actually... but we hired a live in nurse to turn me over periodically and give me sponge baths.
Porn_Guy Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 I believe women are capable of having sex with out emotional attachment. . hahahahahaha......that's the funniest thing i've read in ages.
Walk Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 Yes...I do remember having that awful obligatory sex...so perhaps it is that women are "capable" but as in my case, less willing then men. Maybe many women are more likely to choose men to whom they are emotionally attached, rather than those they aren't. However, for me personally, it would be nice to be sexually attracted to men I'm not necessarily personally attracted to....it sure gets cold and lonely this time of year, out here in the hills......... I've had sex without the emotional ties before, and it's instant gratification, but leaves you feeling lonelier in the long run. I missed the emotional fulfillment of sex with love. Sex without love is like masturbating, sort of. Except then you have the fear of STD's, weirdo's, and pregnancy. Whereas I don't have those fears from masturbation. If you want physical release, buy a vibrator. You want companionship, get a kitten or puppy. You want to be less cold, buy a blanket. But dont' have sex because your lonely. Well, you can... but it doesn't help. And chances are high that you'll develop an attachment if you have sex for reasons of being lonely.
alextop30 Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 I do have opinion on the matter but before I state it I would like to know why it is picked on man so much in this thread. Guys have sex with no emotions attached --- that can be true depending on the person and it could be true the opocite way around and yes it is labeled with colorful words and I believe that for men it could be labeled with same kind of words "****er" "****ing around" and so on. To my opinion there has to be always emotional attachment othewise you do tend to feel more alone and it really doesnt feel as good as when you are emotionally attached to the person. I really disliked the statement that men let go of their feelings early in thier childhood - well I was told by my father that a man never crys no does he act as a door mat for other guys and that it is litterary embaresement to get hit by a guy and never return the favor. I havent cried since I was 5 and I dont let myself get pushed around. Is this what that statement was reffering the fact that we dont cry - crying is not an emotion it is a responce to sadness. Sadness is the emotion that men do feel too but because we dont cry and show it out we are labeled as way less emotional or not able of having that emotion at all which is crap. Women you can really mad at men but they do have feelings too even though they may not be showing them externally.
norajane Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 I do have opinion on the matter but before I state it I would like to know why it is picked on man so much in this thread. This is nothing - you should see some of the threads claiming women are big bad man-hating gold-digging bitches! This thread is mild, mild, mild. Guys have sex with no emotions attached --- that can be true depending on the person and it could be true the opocite way around and yes it is labeled with colorful words and I believe that for men it could be labeled with same kind of words "****er" "****ing around" and so on.The colorful labels placed on men who have sex without attachment are nothing compared to the labels placed on women who have sex without attachment with many men...slut, whore, skank, etc. Men are actually admired for being able to have meaningless sex with a lot of women - guys consider those guys "lucky". Women you can really mad at men but they do have feelings too even though they may not be showing them externally.Of course men have feelings, and yes, it's been studied by psychologists and shown that men aren't as expressive with their feelings. However, when we're talking about hook-ups and one night stands, I don't think it's a case of men having feelings and not showing them. Men can and do have sex without emotional attachment, just as they can and do have emotional attachment without sex. Usually, it's not with the same woman, though. I think a men can use some women for sex, but a different women might elicit emotional sex from the same man.
D-Lish Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Honestly? Whether or not a woman can have emotionally unattached sex depends on the guy! If I really like someone, I'll treat them differently than someone I don't. I guess it's all about liking someone enough to respect them. Things changed for me after my divorce. I realized that the world can be a painful place. Sometimes it's easier to participate in some things that are simply considered meaningless fun. Getting involved can hurt. As women, we have learned to feel ashamed about wanting sex. We are taught this from a very young age. Men are encouraged- women are discouraged. That's just plain antiquated thinking. Even other women buy into this thinking- and label other women. It's ridiculous.
magichands Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 As women, we have learned to feel ashamed about wanting sex. We are taught this from a very young age. Men are encouraged- women are discouraged. That's just plain antiquated thinking. Even other women buy into this thinking- and label other women. It's ridiculous. That's a very good point. (And we haven't even mentioned the anal sex taboo.)
magichands Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Ouchee! stop it uncle Magichands...it hurts! That wasn't me. Are you sure you're not constipated?? I can try to loosen things up from the other end if you'd like.
D-Lish Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 I guess a little fiber can't hurt eh? What's not to like about fiber? how would you loosen me up from the other end? Just curious.
magichands Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 how would you loosen me up from the other end? Just curious. It's a question of finding just the right angle. Perhaps massaging in deep circles is the best technique for this sort of thing. It's kind of disconcerting when they run off suddenly to the bathroom, though. Sometimes one doesn't know if they're coming or going. "Was it good for you, too?"
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