Aloros Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 I dated my ex for 5.5 years and broke up with him for the last time about eight months ago. He had difficulty being honest with me, placing me as a priority in his life, and just couldn't grow up. After being together for so long, we have a high overlap of friends. Some of my closest friends are his closest friends. One of my friends invited me out to a $1 taco/$1 drink night at the restaurant my ex used to work at (or I THOUGHT he used to work at. Apparently he still works there.). I thought it sounded great, there was a group of friends I hadn't seen in a while going, so I agreed. Turns out he still works there, contacted the friend who invited me, and told him that he didn't want me coming. I am so frustrated! I just don't get to see my friends as often anymore because I've been trying to respect his space, but it's been eight months... can't he just let it go? It further makes me angry that he couldn't bother to drop me an email or call me and talk it over like grown, rational people instead of sending the message through a mutual friend. What is this, fifth grade? Admittedly, I started dating rather soon after we broke up, and I think he was under the impression that, in a couple years, we might get back together. I think I could have been more clear that this was IT, he'd blown all his chances, and I had no intention of being with him ever again. Should I continue to respect his space? A close mutual friend of ours is leaving for Albania for two years this March, and I want to be there to send him off. I don't want to have to coordinate times when each of us can be there. It just seems so ridiculous.
LakesideDream Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 8 Months..... Respecting Space..... Cheap Taco's..... what a delima. I say screw it, go for the cheap taco's !
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 Unless he owns the restautrant, he's got absolutely no right whatsoever in making you miss out on get-togethers - it's 8 months!!! He needs to be a man and grow up. You could respect his space but only if he respects your right to be friends with whoever you want...
silentcharon Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 Screw your ex. A similiar thing also happened to me- in bars, and I came anyway. I confronted him and told him that our friends weren't just his, they were also mine- I felt that it wasn't fair that he was telling people not to invite me just because we broke up. Besides, it was a free country, I can go wherever the hell I want to, regardless of whether he was there or not. I didn't need his permission anymore, and screw his space, he was the one who dumped me. I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just act indifferent towards him when you do see him.
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