Bamaboy2006 Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 You know as I have been thinking about this over the last couple of years I have really started wondering if dating is not for everyone. There are so many of us who have never met that special person and those of us who havent had any kind of luck dating at all, myself included. I just really wonder sometimes if us people just werent really meant to be successful in dating, I know it sounds like im whinning but im not. This is a legitimate question. Things like that really make me wonder if there are some folks who just are not cut out for dating. Because for alot of people success just oozes out of them and they seemingly dont have a moment in their life that they are single, and yet others just cant get a date to save their life. Its things like this that make me wonder.
Cous Cous With Goose Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 Why are you questioning this man? First off answer these for me -how old are you -approx. how many dates have you been on -have you kissed a girl -have you had sex -did you enjoy the dates you were on -how much uncomfortable energy was there on the dates -do you know how to talk to girls, like get them to be at least friends -do you have an adequate number of female friends -has any girl expressed interest in you before you did in them -have you actually thought about what went wrong during your relationship and tried to learn from the mistakes
AwkwardMan Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 Why are you questioning this man? First off answer these for me -how old are you 20 -approx. how many dates have you been on 10-15ish (not counting anything with girlfriends) -have you kissed a girl yeah -have you had sex yeah -did you enjoy the dates you were on almost all of them -how much uncomfortable energy was there on the dates a little -do you know how to talk to girls, like get them to be at least friends sure -do you have an adequate number of female friends sure -has any girl expressed interest in you before you did in them a few -have you actually thought about what went wrong during your relationship and tried to learn from the mistakes duh And I hate dating so much. Because people are just not honest or direct. I'm infinitely happier single and not dating people or in a relationship with someone I can hold as I go to sleep. edit: The actual dates are fine, it's the bull**** surrounding them that hurts me the most.
Touche Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 Oh stop the whining and join the rest of the human race guys. Do you think everyone knocks it out of the ballpark on the first try? It's just part of life. Part of what you have to go through until you meet the right one for you. Unless you just stop dating altogether. If you do that, you'll never meet the right one for you and someone else who didn't drop out of the race will meet the one who might have been meant for you. And I can't believe you are that young and complaining about it. Try going through that hell until you're 33 like I did! Sheesh...get over it.
Krytellan Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 Chances are, you can expect many more bad experiences and lonely nights. Talk to me when you are 30 and haven't had a long-term relationship yet.
roxy_1980 Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Can you live without ever kissing anyone again? Can you live without ever having sex again? Can you live with the knowledge that there is no chance at all? If you have answered no to any of these questions, you are not ready to give up dating. Dating is necessary if you are to find someone to be with. Just because other people seem to be better at dating doesn't make your dating experience any less valid. Deal with your own experience and don't compare your to others. Remember: It only has to happen once. Rise up and claim your life, Roxy
D-Lish Posted January 29, 2007 Posted January 29, 2007 Just like everything else in life, dating requires practice. People who always seem to be in a relationship- well, they often settle. And I've observed that people who jump from person to person often lack introspect. Someone who never allows themself to experience being alone is someone laden with issues. How do you ever get to know who you really are if you are always defining yourself through companionship? I think you're just having a moment here- because dating is part of the process of meeting a compatible partner. Just because you haven't found the right person yet doesn't mean it's a waste of time. Keep practicing. Don't settle. Oh, and in the meantime, masturbate. ;-) D
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