perspektiv Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 Long long story short: My ex and I broke up in November. We had a trip planned to Mexico in early January, so we prolonged the break up for that long. Along with that came a lot of hurt during those 2 months. We ended up going on the trip etc etc. there is a thread on it here if anyone cares to know more: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t106859/ Since we got back from the trip, I have talked to her about twice a day. She calls me, I barely call her. Its kinda always been that way since we are long distance and she has a long distance phone plan. Anyways, she calls me once during the day, and usually as she goes to bed (even SUPER late sometimes). Before you ask, yes, I would like to be with her again but I feel that right now it is impossible until she finishes school. We don't express emotion on these calls except the occasional "i miss you, I wish you were here with me" Etc... Most of the time the calls are very bland because I have a hard time not expressing emotion, so I clam up a lot. She says she calls me because she needs me. She called me at 3:45am last night as she was going to sleep after being out all night. She says I help her fall asleep. Whats my problem? Well, I don't want to blow her off completely. I do enjoy talking to her, but it seems as if we are both keeping each other around but not letting go. I don't understand why she calls, and when I try to get into it, it ends up in argument. She has no problem with it, and it doesn't bother her to talk to me. I am slightly hurt when I talk to her, because I know her whole story isn't coming out. I know shes probably doing her thing with other guys, but that never comes up. With how much she is going out, there is no question about that. I have trouble talking to her without emotion, and emotion right now only sparks arguments. I can't just go NC with the situation at hand. Maybe I can be less available? I have a hard time ignoring her calls. It almost hurts me to do that. I dunno. I'm confused. I mean, I have been out with other girls. She has called me while I was out and I answered. Sooner or later its going to have to stop, or shes going to have to come around and truly want me back. Let me know what you guys think...
LakesideDream Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 Time to stop being the "back up guy" dude. Tell her when she calls tonight that it's time to give it a rest. Calling you at all hours isn't doing you any good. If that doesen't work, you know the drill. Block her phone number or change yours.
Author perspektiv Posted January 28, 2007 Author Posted January 28, 2007 She didn't call last night, or the rest of the day yesterday. Maybe she found whatever she needed to replace me lol? Honestly its easier not talking to her. Even if she does call me from here on out, I dunno if I even want to. I may in the future. Who knows. Shes the one that broke it off from me so she can be social and enjoy her last semester at school. I'm not sticking around as her fall back during that. I was out with a girl friend all night last night, and it felt great. I feel a lot more "over" her as days go by. I'm sure she'll realize the mistakes shes made someday. I'm not the perfect guy, no one is, but I treated her like gold, and she walked all over me. Whatever...on with it. I'm sick of rambling on about a dead relationship.
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