Joe12 Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 I never thought i'd be the kind of guy to do this but meh, reading some of the topics on here that are in some way related have helped a lot, so congrats to the creators of this site. Anyways, basically i'm having a ridiculous amount of trouble getting over my ex... and even though we're not together I still get jealous. We had been going out for just over a year and we really were so in love, but things really started going badly, we argued a lot about stupid stuff and things weren't really working out. Anyways, we had a kind of on/off thing for about a month and then I told her that this is stupid and we just shouldn't see each other at all any more. Naturally, since it's the way I am, that didn't work and we ended up sleeping together again about 2 months ago. Since then things have got a bit better, i've seen are occasionally kinda as a friend cos I can talk to her really easily about stuff but we've ended up kissing and stuff which obviously doesn't help. So this whole time i've still kinda felt like there was something between us but then I found out just a couple of days ago that she kissed some other guy while she was out somewhere. Anyways, this got me pretty down cos 1. I felt like we were still kinda goin together so I felt a bit betrayed and 2. I just can't get over her so I felt absolutely gutted that in the same time she's managed to move on and start being with other guys. Maybe I sound pathetic but this whole thing over the past couple of days has had me pretty depressed. I went out last night and despite the fact that a lot of my friends commented that I was looking good (lol, I put a lot of effort into my appearance) I still didn't manage to get anywhere with any females, which isn't great for the confidence. The thing is I didn't really try cos i'm extremely shy... but that's another issue, lol. -_- I feel like the best thing for me would be to get another girl, not even a relationship, just something casual, even a kiss! lol. Any advice would be lovely.
corny1 Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 I think you need to give yourself more than one night to be successful with another girl. Give it time and someone will come along for you. Just keep working on improving yourself and hanging out with your friends. This will help you to continue to heal. You are not pathetic. Everyone on here is hurting and it is perfectly natural for you to feel the way that you do. You're right I think the best thing for you is to meet someone. I don't know if a one night stand is necessarily what you need, but maybe another meaningful relationship with a great girl is the remedy. Whatever happens remember that it will take time to heal and also remember that you are not alone in your struggle to forget a past love. Hang in there...
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