unconventionality Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 About three or four months ago I told this guy that I had had feelings for several months that I was attracted to him but he didn't return the feeling, about two weeks later he was seeing one of my friends. I was pretty hurt by this but decided to move on. While I had being chasing this guy I had also had some feelings for another guy but he lived three hours away from while the other guy lived locally. So, I had decided to focus on one relationship and I left the other guy as I didn't feel it would have been fair to lead both guys on. A few weeks ago I went to visit him for his 21st birthday. And things went really well. I didn't kiss him but he was very affectionate towards me, he would cuddle with me on the couch while watching movies and play with my hair. At one point his hand had drifted over my stomach and chest area (though I think he was trying to be unintentional about it). Since then we have kept in contact via email. He's been on holiday for the past few weeks and has been out of mobile range. His emails are long but are light and mostly talk of how his holidays are going... I have known this boy my entire life! I was best friends with his younger sister growing up and am still very good friends with her now, she knows how I feel about him and is okay with it. After my experience with telling the previous boy I am a little reluctant to let him know how I feel. But I don't want to be waiting months to find out whether or not he returns my feelings. I am certain that this isn't a rebound thing as I am definitely over the other guy. My question in this post would be how do I let him know that I have feelings for him. I am pretty certain he feels the same way... but I would like him to come to me first. How can I encourage him? I will be seeing him in about two weeks, and moving to live where he lives next year, regardless of whether we are in a romantic relationship... We are very close friends and I don't think we'd be risking the friendship too much by dating as there is so much history that our friendship is very strong and would be hard to break. So, I'm not too worried about that. Any advice would be helpful. He is not the sort of guy that cuddles with girls, he's affectionate but not overly affectionate, especially the way he was with me. In one of his emails he even offered to teach me to drive. I'm 18 years old. Please, any advice would be appreciated!!! What should I do?
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