Evilken21 Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 Now she says she doesn't like me more than a friend and im really confused on what the hell happened. She even cancelled the date. History: I started talking to her over myspace, I found her profile and thought she looked pretty cool so I added her. I told her I have talked to her in the past before and this really caught her attention. Me and her talked for a bit, we talked about our Jobs, love life and what we do for fun. We asked each other a bunch of questions and such to get to know each other better. So eventually I asked her for her number and she said she was thinking the same thing. So we exchanged numbers and eventually she ended up calling me. The phone chat wasn't so bad, although I did have this weird accent that I seriously hated, she said she didn't mind and that she liked it. I asked her if she liked anyone and she said she liked 2 other guys. I asked her if there was anyone else. She said she kinda liked me so far. So yea, we talked about our Jobs, our hatred towards traffic and a bit of our love life and what she does with her day and such. So yea, we talked on the phone a few times and we actually planned on meeting at a Starbuck for Coffee on Saturday. Which was like a week away at the time but I didn't mind. Gave me plenty of time to prepared for some odd reason though, my weird line was acting weird and it took me a few days to get that fix so I had to call her at a different place to get a hold of her over the phone. One time though, I called her 1 night and she said she couldn't talk because she was at the emergency's. She said it was nothing serious or anything and that it was nothing. She said it was something with her stomach. So I emailed her about it later on tonight and she said its nothing and that she appericate me checking up on her. So I called her again the next night and I was tired as hell and she was babysitting, the chat was actually kinda boring, although I was still able to make her laugh, just once though. so yea...her phone died and that was it. the tension fade.. in the beginning she seemed really interested, but now she has cancelled a date and doesn't sound as enthusiastic http://www.loveforum.net/showthread.php?... Read that link and start from the bottom, although I did get a few replies, just ignore them as they don't know the whole story. Start from the bottom and read your way to the top on the first post. So what the hell happened? why did she change her mind?
Cous Cous With Goose Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 What's wrong with it? -You met her over myspace dude you never do that. There's a reason why I never make online love relationships. See, when you meet someone online then talk to them in real life they've already built an impression of you. You're not the person they expected. Just..avoid stuff like that in the future it's not good, always make the first impression in real life. Otherwise they'll think you're like Hercules before and that 8 headed snake after..cus they'll have built you up as a fantasy and now they're extremely disappointed. -You're way too demanding. It's obvious you pressured her into making a choice. And don't use that "Sorry I just had to get my off my chest" you guys need to know each other and feel comfortable around each other longer than this. Hell you haven't even seen each other in RL. Maybe she was just wanting to be just friends. Maybe she wasn't. But you made her make a decision without even getting to really know her(RL), and she didn't feel too comfortable around you yet to want you in that way. Not anywhere close either considering you guys only had online, phone and text communication. I like to call the friends zone the 'safe zone'. That's where she just put you. -I don't know, something I can't put a finger on in the way you writing your messages. Like you're a jedi with sum mind trick crap on me. Like, your text is real..lame? "Ha no, he has work and I have nothing going on today.. Which is why I wanted to talk to you but seems like ur whole day is taken up." ^^^CREEPY! Considering you two have never even met, this isn't the right thing to say. You have to act like your life isn't boring, even if it is. Otherwise she'll think you got no life. How fun of a boyfriend is that? "Oh I see.... Im going to be so..lonely today ..." ^^^Again. You may think it comes up as sweet and depending on the girl it might, but I'd simply avoid saying stuff like this. "lol hey take it easy! I think ur face turn red 0_o Alright Alright I believe you lol. Just settle down. but you have no idea how many girls said that to me and than a little later got into a relationship with another guy. often times I think its there way of saying " I do want a relationship, just not with YOU" and why wouldn't you want to meet now? It doesn't have to be a date." ^^^Not trying to dis but that first line was a lame attempt at humor, and you immediately jumped into the relationship talk. Not a good idea, especially when she's probably shaking her head at that corny comment. Plus now that comment adds pressure to her decision. Pressuring a girl is NEVER ever good. "But you haven't even met me yet. I mean, I don't know what I did to make you change your mind.... You were interested at first and I really wanted to see you.." ^^^Exactly. She never even met you yet. Why should she care at all? the tension fade.. in the beginning she seemed really interested, but now she has cancelled a date and doesn't sound as enthusiastic Really? I wonder why? Maybe because you pressured her?
Author Evilken21 Posted January 27, 2007 Author Posted January 27, 2007 Ok so is there anyway I can fix this now? and if I left her alone would she ever contact me again? Do I still hav a chance in the future? and should I send her an apology message???
unconventionality Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 I think you should just leave her alone. Call this one a fail. If you want to remain friends with her, like she wanted to then that's fine. But like Cous Cous With Goose said, doing things over myspace is a bad idea. Try meeting girls in RL! Get to know them. Share interests. Be friends with them first. And work it from there. No offense but you seem kind of immature. Maybe you'd be better off just not dating a girl at the moment. I personally think you need to learn to be more independent before you seek a relationship, you seem way to reliant on a relationship with a girl.
Cous Cous With Goose Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 No, just cut off all contact. Take the bad you did in this and learn from it. I've simply become confident and happy with life because I've taken the mindset that it doesn't matter if I fail or have an awkward relationship/conversation with someone, I'll learn everything I can from it. Besides, there's so many girls out there. Test things out, find out what works and what doesn't. But don't EVER think that if you fail on one girl it's over. You're like a bag of penises, and some girls dont like searching around. Find the ones that do:cool:
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