thekhris Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 I often get emails from readers asking how they can "get their groove back" after getting out of a long-term relationship or after hitting a "slump" with women due to a busy work or study schedule. So today I'm going to give you ten quick tips on how to get active in the dating scene again. 1) SEE YOUR BUDDIES: Go out for a couples of boys nights out. After being isolated from the world for so long, it's time for you to sit down with a couple of buddies just like the old times. This will help you become more sociable. 2) EXPAND YOUR SOCIAL CIRCLE: Next, you need to expand your social circle and make NEW friends. Go to parties, join a few clubs...go volunteer somewhere. I guarantee you will meet many women on the way. 3) LEARN TO FLIRT: This is VERY important. From now on, you should be flirting with every girl you meet - just for fun. 4) BE PLAYFUL: This goes hand in hand with flirting. Personally, I think this is the MOST important thing to do if you would like to get your groove back. After being out of the game for so long, chances are you've probably forgotten how to be playful. So work on getting your playful self back. 5) ERASE THE PAST: You can't exactly move on with your life if you're still hung onto the idea of getting your ex back. So MOVE ON. Always look towards your FUTURE, not your past. 6) TAKE THINGS SLOWLY: Don't hurry into another relationship yet. Enjoy your single life. See it as a FREEDOM you have earned! 7) CLEAN UP YOUR HOUSE: Reorganize your furniture. Throw out all the "old stuff" you have. This will help you remove the excessive baggage in your life and make room for the new. 8) SEE BEYOND: Go out and smell the fresh air. See what a beautiful world this is. Life is more than JUST about love. You've gotta understand that before you can get into another relationship. 9) RAISE YOUR STANDARDS: Raise your standards and be pickier with the women you stay. Only date girls that are BETTER than your ex. 10) GO TO THE GYM: Working out can make you feel better about yourself. And most important of all... GO OUT AND MEET WOMEN. Just sitting around HOPING that something will happen or that you'll "get lucky" isn't going to do it. I can GUARANTEE you that. You'll either wind up ALONE for a VERY long time... or you'll wind up with a woman that you don't really enjoy that much...which means you're going to be trapped in another "painful situation" down the road. So... Turn off the computer and go out...
johan Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 Good post. All good advice. In fact, all good advice for me to follow myself. My only comment: It looks like you copied out of someone's published column. If so, I think you should give them credit for it.
Davis Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 Thekhris! All good points! I am trying to get back on the horse myself. I would say my self-esteem is not at a high point. I keep contemplating staying home tonite. I can't do that, it's not going to help me move on or feel any better. So, I called one of my buddies and he's up for driving away from our local spots and doing some bar hopping. Thanks!
Davis Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 Johan: thekhris is on another site and he has lots of good advice. I'm sure he's done lots of reading and posting on these types of forums. Sure, it might be pretty much text book advice for "getting over your ex", but it's always good to have someone remind us of the basics.
Am4Real Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 I often get emails from readers asking how they can "get their groove back" after getting out of a long-term relationship or after hitting a "slump" with women due to a busy work or study schedule. So today I'm going to give you ten quick tips on how to get active in the dating scene again. 1) SEE YOUR BUDDIES: Go out for a couples of boys nights out. After being isolated from the world for so long, it's time for you to sit down with a couple of buddies just like the old times. This will help you become more sociable. 2) EXPAND YOUR SOCIAL CIRCLE: Next, you need to expand your social circle and make NEW friends. Go to parties, join a few clubs...go volunteer somewhere. I guarantee you will meet many women on the way. 3) LEARN TO FLIRT: This is VERY important. From now on, you should be flirting with every girl you meet - just for fun. 4) BE PLAYFUL: This goes hand in hand with flirting. Personally, I think this is the MOST important thing to do if you would like to get your groove back. After being out of the game for so long, chances are you've probably forgotten how to be playful. So work on getting your playful self back. 5) ERASE THE PAST: You can't exactly move on with your life if you're still hung onto the idea of getting your ex back. So MOVE ON. Always look towards your FUTURE, not your past. 6) TAKE THINGS SLOWLY: Don't hurry into another relationship yet. Enjoy your single life. See it as a FREEDOM you have earned! 7) CLEAN UP YOUR HOUSE: Reorganize your furniture. Throw out all the "old stuff" you have. This will help you remove the excessive baggage in your life and make room for the new. 8) SEE BEYOND: Go out and smell the fresh air. See what a beautiful world this is. Life is more than JUST about love. You've gotta understand that before you can get into another relationship. 9) RAISE YOUR STANDARDS: Raise your standards and be pickier with the women you stay. Only date girls that are BETTER than your ex. 10) GO TO THE GYM: Working out can make you feel better about yourself. And most important of all... GO OUT AND MEET WOMEN. Just sitting around HOPING that something will happen or that you'll "get lucky" isn't going to do it. I can GUARANTEE you that. You'll either wind up ALONE for a VERY long time... or you'll wind up with a woman that you don't really enjoy that much...which means you're going to be trapped in another "painful situation" down the road. So... Turn off the computer and go out... Excellent advice...first class!!! Gota go now!
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