confused wife Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 I need help. My husband continually looks up his old girlfriend and "booty calls" up on the internet and looks at their pages (on myspace). This bothers me.... lots. (He doesn't know i know) Today was the final straw... he was acting all weird when he came to meet me for lunch... real distant..bizarre.. then out of the blue he says "have you thought about becoming a teacher?" I am currently pursuing a career in something totally different so this was a real strange comment. I had a hunch this had to do with his ex girlfriend and sure enough I check the computer and he was looking at her page (among the many other women he looked up) and it says plain as day she is becoming a teacher... is that weird? I feel hurt, like my husband is not only on the hunt but wants me to be someone else... anyone have any advice? I want to confront him. I want to leave it all pulled up on the computer.. help me find some peace
ConfusedTeen Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 You have to confront him, I know that sneaking around wasn't the best way to get the information but if you let this go on anymore it will hurt you more than you can repair.
norajane Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 I agree - confront him. This is ridiculous behavior for a MM, and would certainly give you reason to suspect him of actually cheating. The teaching thing? Way beyond wierd. Talk to him and find out WTF he thinks he's doing.
outofdarkness Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 I would be extremely hurt and would confront him w/ evidence in hand...don't let something like this go..He needs to know that it bothers you, is inappropriate...and well he just needs to stop..
Flyin in Clouds Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Pack a bag and leave. A married guy looking up his old girlfriend? Well do you have any old boyfriends to flirt with? If it's OK for him, it's OK for you.
BeenAround_N_Back Posted February 2, 2007 Posted February 2, 2007 You know, when my husband was having his affair, he bought me some silly card for Valentines Day and the present was a book about career change for a woman. Why would I want a career change? I never talked about it and it was just bizzare! Looking back, I should have picked up on it. I think something is going on, maybe not an affair but possibly or possibly trying to change you into someone else. You should talk to him and tell him what you know. good luck
BeenAround_N_Back Posted February 2, 2007 Posted February 2, 2007 I just noticed you said "bootycall"? Is he a serial cheater? I would definitely do something about this!
Author confused wife Posted February 4, 2007 Author Posted February 4, 2007 Thanks for the responses. Well I don't know if he classifies as a serial cheater... if were talking about a past full of one night stands and no commitments (until we met) then yes. Well on top of the computer incident I now find myself unhappy about his behavior at work. We were on the phone while he was taking a break and one of his female co-workers walked by and asked "who are you cheating on me with" he replies "my wife" and she say "oh yea you're married, haha, my bad." I let it go.... I was doing laundry and my husband had a sticker on the back of one of his shirts that said I love ___ (my husband's name.) I thought maybe one of the guys at work was messing with him but then I asked him and he said "oh it was this one girl I work with, she asked me if I would wear it" So some chick at his work asks my husband to wear something that she clearly wrote I love you on it and he does it?? I asked if she knew he was married and he said "yeah she asked me the other day" so she KNEW he was married and behaved like that anyways? n my opinion she's a tramp, he's sending the wrong signals or a bit of both. He acts like I'm psychotically jealous because I think this behavior is 100% inappropriate for a MARRIED MAN! But then he says "oh, you're right, I'll change, because I'm hurting you." Then while we were arguing about it he says" well I could have lied to you," like I should've felt so privileged that he even told me the truth! WTF!!! Did I mention we've only been married for 5 months?? Is this abnormal?? And the worsy part is I end up sitting here wondering if I am crazy.... Oh, and about the teacher comment (I confronted him on it)... he said he d didn't know his ex was one because he doesn't like reading.... ummm, ok:sick:
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