IslandGirl73 Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 So today i go in the breakroom for the snack machine and there's OM standing alone at one of the tables... as i keep going to the machine, I noticed from my peripheral vision he turned to look my way so at this point he knows I'm there. Trying really hard to contain my composure, i proceed to walk back to the door to leave. I have to pass him so in doing so, I just keep right on, caught a quick glimpse-now he was looking down. i just kept right on, didn't stop to talk or not even a quick "hello" i figured at this point by him just ignoring my email yesterday he was making his point loud and clear to me and I just could not bear this ending with him having the upper hand...i had to show him that despite my feelings, i CAN resist him and not be tempted at each sight of him!!! I had to make that statement right back to re-capture my self-dignity and to give him something to think about.... SO yes, it was hard, but I did it....even when he was in plain sight dead in front of me, I resisted and stuck to NC!!! and it felt so good to do so, maybe now he will be left wondering "why" like he's done to me.... anyways, thanks again for all your words of "tuff love" i truly believe its helped me put this into perspective and not give into temptation today!! YEAH for me!!! after going thru something like this, this truly is a HUGE big deal for me.... still a part of me is hoping that he noticed I didn't stop for him and is wondering about it now...but thats ok, i will not let it get the best of me... any thoughts of encouragement, guys? Do you think I've made my point back to him LOUD and CLEAR by doing this? I always welcome since its keeping me sane at this point:eek:
Ripples Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 Well done! Although I've never been an OW, I've had my share of break ups and I can imagine the hurt and ensuing temptation to break NC. So, serious kudos!
puddleofmud Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 Great job! Those few moments must haved seemed endless! We've all been in situations where we have "run" into an EX and it is not easy. You held your head high and walked on...who cares what he thought? He could have been standing there and idiotically thinking, "She wants me; oh, yeah, she wants me" (we know how some men can be!). What matter most is how YOU feel about your behavior and you seem to be feeling really really good> yeeeee haaaaw!
Author IslandGirl73 Posted January 26, 2007 Author Posted January 26, 2007 this is true....in my case though, I am the MW who was considering the OM-but trying to break free from those feelings as I type this...
Author IslandGirl73 Posted January 26, 2007 Author Posted January 26, 2007 Great job! Those few moments must haved seemed endless! We've all been in situations where we have "run" into an EX and it is not easy. You held your head high and walked on...who cares what he thought? He could have been standing there and idiotically thinking, "She wants me; oh, yeah, she wants me" (we know how some men can be!). What matter most is how YOU feel about your behavior and you seem to be feeling really really good> yeeeee haaaaw! yes, puddleofmud-thats exactly it!!! I AM hoping he was thinking one thing when I came in the room but that I quickly burst his bubble by walking on by without even a second look... he has to know that he can't keep yo-yoing with my feelings the way he has all week with his mixed signs. and whats interesting is, all thru out the week during our run-ins, he'd always speak at least a "hello" but today, he didn't even do that...and if its cuz he was waiting on me to come running up to him, then hopefully I showed him what time it REALLY is with me!!!!
whichwayisup Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 Good for you and yes I am proud of you! Baby steps is the way to go... Remember, him saying hello, how's it going just means that. Nothing more, nothing less...Keep everything in perspective and you'll be okay. Before you know it you won't care if you see him or not, he'll just be part of the furniture and nothing he does/doesn't do will matter..... Eventually the next step is getting him OUT of your head...But, right now, let's focus on the baby steps that WILL get you to the next stage of letting go.
Author IslandGirl73 Posted January 26, 2007 Author Posted January 26, 2007 thanks whichwayisup-i really needed that i ran into him again couple hours later in the breakroom while getting my lunch from the fridge..i was coming in while he was leaving the fridge. as soon as i noticed it was him, i immediately looked in another direction before he could lock eye contact with me and again, did not say anything to him. and btw, u will be happy to know that DH and i are going on a special date tonite, just me and him:love: i'm trying, i really am....thx for listening!!!!!!!!
Meaplus3 Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 So today i go in the breakroom for the snack machine and there's OM standing alone at one of the tables... as i keep going to the machine, I noticed from my peripheral vision he turned to look my way so at this point he knows I'm there. Trying really hard to contain my composure, i proceed to walk back to the door to leave. I have to pass him so in doing so, I just keep right on, caught a quick glimpse-now he was looking down. i just kept right on, didn't stop to talk or not even a quick "hello" i figured at this point by him just ignoring my email yesterday he was making his point loud and clear to me and I just could not bear this ending with him having the upper hand...i had to show him that despite my feelings, i CAN resist him and not be tempted at each sight of him!!! I had to make that statement right back to re-capture my self-dignity and to give him something to think about.... SO yes, it was hard, but I did it....even when he was in plain sight dead in front of me, I resisted and stuck to NC!!! and it felt so good to do so, maybe now he will be left wondering "why" like he's done to me.... anyways, thanks again for all your words of "tuff love" i truly believe its helped me put this into perspective and not give into temptation today!! YEAH for me!!! after going thru something like this, this truly is a HUGE big deal for me.... still a part of me is hoping that he noticed I didn't stop for him and is wondering about it now...but thats ok, i will not let it get the best of me... any thoughts of encouragement, guys? Do you think I've made my point back to him LOUD and CLEAR by doing this? I always welcome since its keeping me sane at this point:eek: Good for you! Nip it in the bud now and walk away with you head held high. And alway, always listen to Whichway! she knows' what she's talking about, she's a TRUE GEM! Best of luck!! AP:cool:
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