CaliGuy Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 Well look at it this way. The contact you are making right now is getting you exactly nowhere. You are not healing and she isn't rushing back to you. Maintain this level and you'll probably be the first to know when she's engaged or married. As long as you continue interacting with her you're simply letting her know "Hey, I'm on your string and ready and available the second you want me, 'coz I don't have a life outside of you and I am waiting on your every whim." Sorry, don't mean to sound harsh but you really do need a good shoulder shake (and maybe a few slaps on the cheek) to get you to understand something. You need to let her go and break it off. No contact means no contact, not "I'll hang out and chat with you here and there until you come around." She isn't going to come around if you are waiting around for her. And even then, who cares?! You need to get on with your life without her and accept that what is - IS. You're hanging on to hope instead of healing. That is what contact does. It gives you a false sense of hope and absolutely keeps you in the dumps for far, far longer than you should be. Who runs your life, you or her? Because as long as you maintain contact with her she is the one running your life, not you.
guin_girl Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 You need to get on with your life without her and accept that what is - IS. You're hanging on to hope instead of healing. That is what contact does. It gives you a false sense of hope and absolutely keeps you in the dumps for far, far longer than you should be. Who runs your life, you or her? Because as long as you maintain contact with her she is the one running your life, not you. Cali is so right... I held onto "scraps" for so long to this one guy; he wasn't coming back, oh sure there were brief interludes where we would hook up, but he'd moved on and I sure hadn't. And at the end... long overdue end, when he had found "the" one... he let me know that he had been done long ago, and the part that cut me like a knife was when I asked him why did he keep contacting me if he wasn't interested.... I FELT SORRY FOR YOU.... Heal now, you don't want that message for "closure"...
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