Citizen Erased Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 I just heard that one of my friends, who is a year younger then me, lives with her parents in Australia, and has unfortunately become quite immature has met a 28 year old man from the US and is now moving to be with him. She has a part time job, never finished school, wastes her money on $600 phone bills because of this guy and has started drinking, into drugs etc. I just know she is going to get her heart broken and there is NOTHING which any of her friends can do to convince her this is a bad idea. I mean, he could be a really good guy, be in love with her, is stable etc and could be really good for her, but the chance she is taking is just huge. Chances are that it will not work out and she will be stuck because she has no qualifications to get a job, no family or friends and just this guy who could be God knows what. I could understand her meeting him but she is going to pack up and move overseas without seeing so much as a photo of him. She is burning all her bridges by being horrible to all her friends who try to make her see reason and telling her parents not to contact her. We are NOT trying to control her, we just dont want to see her get hurt but this guy has apparently convinced her that we are all against him and she can only trust him. This is far above teenaged rebellion, this could ruin her life. So what are peoples thoughts? Should we just let her go? Keep trying to talk to her and hope something goes through to her? How likely is it that this guy is genuine and not some 55 year old balding fat man with a wife and 5 kids?
dgiirl Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 Well, it sounds like persuading her is out of the question. And the more you push, the further she'll pull away. I think at this point, you have to do the next best thing. You need to work with her on the move. If it's at all possible, one of her friends or family members should come with her to meet this man. This way you have an idea of what he looks like and where she'll be living. Try to keep the door open as much as possible. If she DOES run into any problems, you dont want her to be ashamed of reaching out for help.
magichands Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 I think you're just jealous. Everything is bigger and better in America... if you know what I mean. Nudge nudge, wink wink. Try to keep the door open as much as possible. If she DOES run into any problems, you dont want her to be ashamed of reaching out for help. Excellent, excellent. I'm ashamed to be posting alongside such wisdom.
Author Citizen Erased Posted January 26, 2007 Author Posted January 26, 2007 Well, it sounds like persuading her is out of the question. And the more you push, the further she'll pull away. I think at this point, you have to do the next best thing. You need to work with her on the move. If it's at all possible, one of her friends or family members should come with her to meet this man. This way you have an idea of what he looks like and where she'll be living. Try to keep the door open as much as possible. If she DOES run into any problems, you dont want her to be ashamed of reaching out for help. Thanks for your advice. I knew we were just pushing her away but we just dont know what else to do. I like having someone there to meet him with her... just who is the question. Well I guess something can be sorted out with her brother. Thanks
Author Citizen Erased Posted January 26, 2007 Author Posted January 26, 2007 I think you're just jealous. Everything is bigger and better in America... if you know what I mean. Nudge nudge, wink wink. Excellent, excellent. I'm ashamed to be posting alongside such wisdom. Well I actually live in New York at the moment and have for a year and a half but oh well.... I just wont be here when she makes the move.
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