BlueEyedSarah Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 I am seeing him next month in person and staying for 6 months with him. . He tells me he wants to take things slow with me, he doesnt want to rush into anything (like sex). . He has never had a girlfriend while knowing me. He has known me for about 4 years now and all this time he said he has been waiting to see what happens between the both of us. . We talk online (web camera and mic) like...a LOT. Couple times it has even been all day! When we don't talk for a while like a couple days in a row (which is recently happening because he is busy with he's job) he tells me he misses me. . He allows me to listen to him sleep on the micraphone and talking to me. . He even sleeps on the floor just to stay chatting with me online or to just listen to me. . He hopes for me to find a job, get a work permit and stay live with him if I feel ready. He seems a little put out/frustrated when I tell him I'm not sure if I am ready (this does not include sex). . We both trust each other, no jealousy involved. . We hardly ever argue. Infact we have not had an argument for months. It may even be a year since we last had an arguement. There is many more but I thought I would jsut end it here. Is this a serious relationship or should I expect a broken heart? My mum told me it sounds like the guy wants to have a long-term relationship with me.
BohemeRose Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 It sounds like he does. Just make sure it's what you want before you agree to commit to a long term relationship. I'm sure if he decides he wants marriage or something, he'll let you know! He sounds pretty open.
unconventionality Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 He sounds open and honest, if he says that he wants to commit to you then I would take his word for it. But remember that actions can speak louder then words. If you're unsure then take it slow.
justagirliegirl Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 Will this be the first time you two meet in person?
LostHeart Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 I met my guy online about six-seven years ago. We've been through EVERYTHING under the sun and everything he ever told me was honest. Have a little faith that things will go smoothly and they will. Be yourself and do NOT move in with him if that's not what YOU want. Other than that he seems like a decent guy looking, yes, for a long-term commitment. If you're not that into him when you meet then stay friendly with him and let him know before you go back to your house (I think it's terribly rude to wait until you go home or right before you go home--just let him know). It really is important that you take things at your own pace but sometimes sparks can fly right off the bat like it did with me and my guy. There is no reason to rush things but follow your heart and think with your head before acting. If you've interacted with him for four years then you should have a pretty good idea about who he is. Expect a FRIENDSHIP so nobody gets hurt if things don't go further. Sounds exciting though hope your meeting goes well!
BlueEyedSarah Posted February 9, 2007 Posted February 9, 2007 Will this be the first time you two meet in person? No its not the first time I will be meeting him. I met him for the first time about 2 years ago.
Sweetie2007 Posted February 21, 2007 Posted February 21, 2007 I am seeing him next month in person and staying for 6 months with him. 1. He tells me he wants to take things slow with me, he doesnt want to rush into anything (like sex). 2. He has never had a girlfriend while knowing me. He has known me for about 4 years now and all this time he said he has been waiting to see what happens between the both of us. 3. We talk online (web camera and mic) like...a LOT. Couple times it has even been all day! When we don't talk for a while like a couple days in a row (which is recently happening because he is busy with he's job) he tells me he misses me. 4. He allows me to listen to him sleep on the micraphone and talking to me. 5. He even sleeps on the floor just to stay chatting with me online or to just listen to me. 6. He hopes for me to find a job, get a work permit and stay live with him if I feel ready. He seems a little put out/frustrated when I tell him I'm not sure if I am ready (this does not include sex). 7. We both trust each other, no jealousy involved. 8. We hardly ever argue. Infact we have not had an argument for months. It may even be a year since we last had an arguement. 9. Is this a serious relationship or should I expect a broken heart? It sounds to me like he wants a serious relationship. A few of the things you wrote, sound like my relationship in the first year or so. What worried me, was what I numbered as number 6, that he seems mad, in a way, when you say your not ready. He sounds like a sweetheart, and honestly, from what you wrote, a lot like my BF (thats very positive!), but you might want to ask him sometime, why he is impatient about you moving to where he is? It is a hard thing, to leave what you know and love, especially if it is an extremely long distance, or another language to learn, and he should understand that. Is you moving where he is what you want also, or just what he is asking for? 2: That is a true sign of commitment, take it as a good thing. If there have been rough spots in your relationship, and he stayed commited, even though you were apart, thats true, and I admire him for that. It's not easy being away from the one you care about, but staying commited and honest is key... 9: Have you asked him that? Maybe before you spend 6 months together and get completely attached with him, you should know what to expect... just a thought...
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