Lazarus Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 I posted this like 2 months ago http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t105581/ and nothings changed since, shes dating the other guy, and the last time we talked she claimed she was "in love" with him already, (even though its been barely 2 months....) yet I still miss her and want her like nothing has happened. I am so torn still, and it hurts my feelings every day, because practically everything I own and do reminds me of her. We were childhood friends and dated for 4 years.. i mean i know i'm supposed to give myself time to cope with whats happened, but I still wake up every day thinkinga bout her, and go to sleep thinking about her. I don't understand why I can't just come to terms with this and realize that its over between us. I dont want it to be, because I loved her so much, but I just cant get my mind off of it still. We havent seen each other or spoken more than 3 times since Thanksgiving last year, even though she lives across the street from me back home (not at school, but I was home for basically a month from college). I want to meet new people, but every girl I meet I end up comparing to her and thinking, "wow this girl pales in comparison". Its tearing me up on the inside and I hate it so much its not even funny. I feel like I've lost my best friend and I don't even think she cares, and it hurts so bad. Help me please Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 Awww... you are so cute! Well, most everyone feels just that way around here. (at least I know I do) You just miss people you loved, it's normal. What else can you do? Just miss. Ariadne Link to post Share on other sites
corny1 Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 You still miss her because you still love and care about her. People that get dumped often sit and pine over the loss of a loved one while the dumpee simply moves on. I'm not saying that is the case here, but you still hurt because she is gone. Give yourself time to heal. We all heal at our own rate, some faster than others, but it will happen for you. Take this time to improve yourself. You will then be a better person for a reunion with your ex, or you will simply just be a better person for that next special person in your life. Stay strong and keep your chin up. Take Care... Link to post Share on other sites
KittenMoon Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 Long relationships sometimes require long recovery times. A lot longer than you might think. Try to just give yourself time. Link to post Share on other sites
shockandawed Posted January 26, 2007 Share Posted January 26, 2007 Lazarus, Hang in there, I now your pain all too well. It sucks, your life is empty, you remember all the good times, etc... I am great at listening and giving advise, I just suck at following it. My heart is driving me so hard right now. The posters are right, improve yourself. I have worked out recently and improved my diet considerably. Go out. I am in a strange spot that I spent this morning wooing my ex fiance and then I have a date tonight. The crazy thing is this girl is very interested in me as she said, because most guys she meets are uptight or clingy. She said she loves my self confidence. Funny, its just that I am pining over my ex, and am indifferent to her, but she sees it as self confidence. Link to post Share on other sites
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