jjohns Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 I am honestly at my wits end with this girl. We broke up back in September. We stayed pretty much a couple without being together until the end of october, when she found someone new. We didn't talk much for a month and then we started emailing and talking, but we would always fight because we still would analyze our relationship that didn't exist. That went on and off for awhile with someone finally breaking down and contacting the other. Present month, we are still argueing alot. She is still with the same guy. This is were I am going insane. 3 weeks ago we go out to dinner and at the beginning I am just trying to be a friend. She starts saying I am not being the same way I used to be. How can I be like I used to be when we are not together and she has a boyfriend. So I loosened up some and then we, started talking about the past. By the end of the night we ended up in bed. It was like it used to be. I was feeling very used, and ashamed for what I did. After that I decided that we shouldn't see eachother anymore because I didn't want that to happen again. Her answer was "I don't know what to tell you." She still says she misses me and all of that stuff. I just can't seem to break away from her. Any suggestions on how to get her out of my head and to stay away from her. I feel good for awhile then she always seems to bring me back in.
amaysngrace Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 She's got good sensors. She knows when you're about ready to move on so she picks up on that and hones back in. My exH use to do the very same thing to me when we would separate and I'd get mentally ready to say good-bye to him forever. It's all about her. Making sure she has what she needs. To heck with you and your wants and desires. She's an extremely selfish person. If she truly loved you she'd let you go to find your own happiness. Instead she keeps you hanging on for her own selfish reasons. The best thing you can do for yourself is look after #1. You don't need her. She plays games with you making sure she has what she needs. Don't allow her to anymore. If she makes contact via email delete it. Don't open it. Block her number so she can't call. Don't let her have all the power. You can call a few shots of your own. Go on with your own life without her and let her have the guy she's seeing now. He's not you. He'll never be you. Therefore she's the one making a huge mistake. But her mistakes are not your problem. Live your life for you and live it happily.
V._Confuzzled Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 I just can't seem to break away from her. Any suggestions on how to get her out of my head and to stay away from her. I feel good for awhile then she always seems to bring me back in. TBH, if you really didnt want anything to do with this girl, you would have stopped contact a long time ago! Maybe you still have underlying feelings for her? The best thing you could do is pretty much what 'grace said, don't open emails, dont answer calls, and for God's sake dont go out to dinner with her. Just drop off her radar for a while until you figure out what you want. It might be hard at first, but then just come 'n' moan on here to distract yourself lol .
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