rosebud6712 Posted January 25, 2007 Posted January 25, 2007 hello everyone, i've been on this site, and spoke about a breakup that i went through recently. it was definitely a drawn out process, until i decided to end it completly, this happend within a 7 month period of time. now my ex, whom i will no longer speak to by choice, is trying to be my friend....i don't respond, i figure, silence answers it all. so anyways, i've had bad relationships throughout my entire life. basically i've been cheated on, lied to, and given false hope. about a month ago, i started hanging out with my friends fiances best friend, who is an amazing individual. he makes me laugh, we have fun together, he is in his last semester of college and will be home by the summer time. i honestly feel as though this man is the "one".......and he shares that feeling about me also. we dont' have the "title" as boyfriend/girlfriend, we both figure we'll wait until he's home for good. i am terrified, so scared to give my all to him, but he deserves it. i do trust him, but in the back of my mind i can't help but feel he'll be like all the "others" and that isn't fair to him. i really need to let go of the baggage i carry with me to be truly happy i know this, but i know that he can also make me happy. i am torn, and don't want to hurt him or end up getting hurt. should i remain to just keep things slow, the way they are and trust him? how do i get that second guessing out of my head?????
Poboy Posted January 25, 2007 Posted January 25, 2007 well everyone is different ... go into this one without thinking about your past. if you are not going to put in your full effort , it will not work. if you see a future with this guy , have one with him
PurpleAngel Posted January 25, 2007 Posted January 25, 2007 hello everyone, i've been on this site, and spoke about a breakup that i went through recently. it was definitely a drawn out process, until i decided to end it completly, this happend within a 7 month period of time. now my ex, whom i will no longer speak to by choice, is trying to be my friend....i don't respond, i figure, silence answers it all. Good if this is what you feel you should do self preservation is very important. dont feel bad that you don't answer. Move on with a more possitive experience. so anyways, i've had bad relationships throughout my entire life. basically i've been cheated on, lied to, and given false hope. Entire life?? May i ask how old you are? i honestly feel as though this man is the "one"....... The reality is you need to spend lots of time to really know this about someone. The honeymoon period often feels so amazing (especially with a strong bond) that it does feel like the one. My advice would be to not think about this at the present moment. Think of doing what you can to get to know this guy. The 'one' stuff will come if it is meant between you. It sounds like you are rushing a million miles an hour. just enjoy it for what it is even if he ends up not being the one! i am terrified, so scared to give my all to him, Well giving someone your all takes time, you cant just let it all out overnight. its important you take your time doing it. Getting to know your self also within the relationship. this will also help you understand if he is 'the one' but he deserves it. Time will tell! Take your time. and don't want to hurt him or end up getting hurt. well take your time and build a strong friendship.. this is what the basis of all good relationships is. Talk heaps and dont let your emotions overtake your instincts. second guessing out of my head????? Well without sounding like i am repeating myself.. TAKE IT SLOWLY, have fun with it and DONT lose yourself within it otherwise you will always second guess everything. GOOD LUCK and enjoy!
Author rosebud6712 Posted January 26, 2007 Author Posted January 26, 2007 purple angel i am 30 going on 31 soon. thank you for your kind words you are right, and only time will tell, there is no need to rush anything. and you are so right a life lived in fear is a life half lived!!! i am going to have to keep reminding myself of that every day! thank you!!!!
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