MustBeLove Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 I don't like Valentines Day. I have never been a fan of it. Xmas was very very hard, but this is nothing. It has always been just another day for me. I do love the day after Valentines Day because all the the chocolate is 50% off, and that is wonderful for me!
GreenEyedLady Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 I was just wondering if any of you had any plans with your MM or OW on Valentines Day or any other Valentines Day's in the past?? If not then how do yall handle it?? Does he talk with you on this day or try and avoid you all-together?? has he/she done anything special for you (being the OW in the relationship)?? Im dreading this upcoming holiday because ME being the OW ,I know that he will probaly spend it with his W..This is my first time being involved with a MM ,things were going down hill between us two,but NOW things couldn't be any better.. Every R is different...we have in the past spent the day before together, due to his work schedule...just talk to yours before hand so you know what to expect and it won't be a surprise... He may be able to spend it with you...mine surprised me this past Christmas and New Year's...I don't know what Valentine's holds (he's working but trying to make me happy right now), but at the very least we'll definitely talk...he wouldn't try to avoid me... Good luck...
BurntInNJ Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 I was thinking of mailing exMM a sexy VD card, along with large box of his favorite chocolates and a Gift Certificate for an evening of fun at our favorite Hotel! Wifey now opens all his mail! Forgive me if this has already been "discussed/posted" on here,but I was just wondering if any of you had any plans with your MM or OW on Valentines Day or any other Valentines Day's in the past?? If not then how do yall handle it?? Does he talk with you on this day or try and avoid you all-together?? has he/she done anything special for you (being the OW in the relationship)?? Im dreading this upcoming holiday because ME being the OW ,I know that he will probaly spend it with his W..This is my first time being involved with a MM ,things were going down hill between us two,but NOW things couldn't be any better..Anyway I don't really feel like getting into how we met,are drama,etc but I will say that we have been "seeing each other" for about 6 months and that I KNOW for a fact that he LOVES me and I LOVE him..it's just hard to spend "quality time" with one another on the holidays.. because of obvious reasons ;-)
ForbiddenLove Posted February 10, 2007 Posted February 10, 2007 Thanks for all the warm/helpful replies,that actually answered my Q's Anyway..Everything is still going good w/th me & MM but still no plans for V-day (witch is fine since I have plans with a few g-friends) I probally will be FURIOUS if he dosn't it least call me though.. We call each other several times a day so that would be a First! DID/are any of you ( OW) buying Gifts for your MM on V-day?? Or has MM bought you anything on the previous holiday's?? I am broke so me buying him anything is out of the question ..Hell I didn't even buy him anything on Chritmas so why now?? heheh..
GreenEyedLady Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Really a PI. He wont tell me where she lives. I would love to see her for myself. I really am not trying to cause chaos. I just think these women should see the truth. Most of them were lied to from the start. How can you honeslty love someone who lied to you. How can you still love your H then? He lied to you also right?
mopar crazy Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 I was thinking of mailing exMM a sexy VD card, along with large box of his favorite chocolates and a Gift Certificate for an evening of fun at our favorite Hotel! Wifey now opens all his mail! Hmmmm, I wonder why he is your XMM?
noforgiveness Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 I was thinking of mailing exMM a sexy VD card, along with large box of his favorite chocolates and a Gift Certificate for an evening of fun at our favorite Hotel! Wifey now opens all his mail! Well since the wife already knows about you and your mm is probably in the stage of incredible make up sex with his wife to prove how much more he loves her I am sure she would appreciate a lovely evening in a fine hotel all paid for by his little secret. I'm sure it's a lovely hotel right? I can't imagine you would lower yourself to sex in the local motel 6.
Blue Phoenix Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 --"I KNOW for a fact that he LOVES me and I LOVE him..it's just hard to spend "quality time" with one another on the holidays.. because of obvious reasons ;-)"-- Ok im sorry but I have to say that this is just mean spirted. Its like this women is proud to be hurting the wife behind her back. Im sorry I just see it as crewl obvious reasons you mean another human being right?? crewl nothing more.. You all want respect so bad yet some of you are the 1st ones to gloat and bost about your affairs is this respecting others I think not sorry to say..
ratingsguy Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Forgive me if this has already been "discussed/posted" on here,but I was just wondering if any of you had any plans with your MM or OW on Valentines Day... I may have a date Wednesday night... we'll see! Otherwise, I'm planning to turn off the radio and TV and just pretend like it's another day... all the while looking forward to Thursday when it's over.
Guest Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Well since the wife already knows about you and your mm is probably in the stage of incredible make up sex with his wife to prove how much more he loves her I am sure she would appreciate a lovely evening in a fine hotel all paid for by his little secret. I'm sure it's a lovely hotel right? I can't imagine you would lower yourself to sex in the local motel 6. Good point NF! BUT, What's wrong with the Local Motel 6? It is better than doing it in the back seat of his car! Those baby seats are always in the way!
BurriedAlive Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 I can't believe that I am going away with MM on Wednesday on business. We had to plan a trip and it worked out the only two days we could go was Wednesday or Thursday and Thursday didn't work for me. So....even if we are both desperately trying to end it, we have decided only to continue the R when we are on the road. So it will be a night of hot sex! I can't wait. W is not impressed that he won't be home, he told me. Of course he hasn't told her that he was going away with me.
Freedom Now Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Last year, I was bending myself into a pretzel....trying to function in the role of the OW. I was a terrible one, I admit it. I just couldn't share. But, to answer the question, he texted and called me all day, gave me Valentine's gifts all month long, and presented me with a dream trip to see my favorite performer with him. None of it was worth the pain I went through. NONE of it. This Valentine's Day, I have a date with a wonderful man. A wonderful, AVAILABLE man. A man who told me that I have captivated him. A man who wants me to give US a chance. A man who has firstly been my friend for years. And more than all that: a man with integrity and respect for me. And he has given me the space to take things at MY speed. Is there all the heady romance and passion like the MM? Nope. But who cares? Where did that get me, really? Into a mess. That's where. I will take respect, availability, kindness, honesty and stability anyday. And I hope this man is able to turn my head. I really do. I am gonna give him a chance. Last year was a hard, hard year for me, but I have hope that this year will be better.
Impudent Oyster Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Carter, Hire a PI ASAP!! Valentine's Day is the best day to catch a cheat. t. What makes you say that? Do you really think most MM are so bold that they would spend Valentine's day with the OW? I don't know, maybe I'm just naive but I would think they'd spend it with their wives and celebrate with the OW on another day. Ooops, nevermind, I just read where buried alive's MM is spending an overnight Valentine's day with her. I guess I am naive.
YoMomma Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Last year, I was bending myself into a pretzel....trying to function in the role of the OW. I was a terrible one, I admit it. I just couldn't share. But, to answer the question, he texted and called me all day, gave me Valentine's gifts all month long, and presented me with a dream trip to see my favorite performer with him. None of it was worth the pain I went through. NONE of it. This Valentine's Day, I have a date with a wonderful man. A wonderful, AVAILABLE man. A man who told me that I have captivated him. A man who wants me to give US a chance. A man who has firstly been my friend for years. And more than all that: a man with integrity and respect for me. And he has given me the space to take things at MY speed. Is there all the heady romance and passion like the MM? Nope. But who cares? Where did that get me, really? Into a mess. That's where. I will take respect, availability, kindness, honesty and stability anyday. And I hope this man is able to turn my head. I really do. I am gonna give him a chance. Last year was a hard, hard year for me, but I have hope that this year will be better. Way to go Freedom! Last year at this time I was still with MM - what a jerk I was... and although we spent most of Valentines Day together - this year is going to be SO much better. No more secrets & lies - ever!
Catharsis Posted February 11, 2007 Posted February 11, 2007 Last year at this time I was still enthralled with exMM who painted a picture of himself and his M that simply wasn't true and made me doubt my sanity. He had me convinced that he was stuck in an unhappy, sexless M and would much rather be with me, the woman he should have married in the first place. And then I woke up and found out what a lying scumbag he really was. Of course a MM is going to tell his OW that his M sucks/is dead/sexless/is practically over. That's what he has to say to get laid. Very few women would start an affair with a man who tells them that his M was going fine, but that he'd like a little variety in his life and have no-strings attached sex whenever he feels like it. So they tell the lies to keep the OW strung along. What's the incentive to change it? If the OW walks away she'll be replaced with someone else. Is that really so hard to see? I have read all the emails my exMM sends to his W, telling her exactly what she needs to hear and not get suspicious, and then the stories he tells his OW(plural) to keep them strung along. It's a shame that so many women fall for this crap.
NoIDidn't Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 What makes you say that? Do you really think most MM are so bold that they would spend Valentine's day with the OW? I don't know, maybe I'm just naive but I would think they'd spend it with their wives and celebrate with the OW on another day. Ooops, nevermind, I just read where buried alive's MM is spending an overnight Valentine's day with her. I guess I am naive. IO I have to ask, why are you here on this forum? Have you been cheated on? I have. Have you come to vent your frustration? Or was there something that you were curious about? I have to ask, because you singled out my post and it was just a straight forward, you can catch a cheat on Valentine's Day thing. And you can. Having learned a lot here and other places on infidelity, cheating, and the like, Valentine's is the BEST day to catch someone that is cheating. Chances are, if its a cheating husband, he has a hopeful or frustrated OW that expects something from him that he may or may not be able to give. The OW may call his cell phone or his office, or even his home to get an audience from the one that says he loves her so much. Some people put entirely too much emphasis on such a little day. Check out survivinginfidelity or marriagebuilders on February 15 and 16 and see just how many unsuspecting spouses discovered the affair on the 14th. Its a surge on that day. Whatever it is that you came here for, I do hope you find it. Most of the people here are doing their own emotional best to cope with a situation that may or may not be of their own making. A bit of advice to all newbies: for the first month or so, try reading more and posting less. Get to know the posters moreso than just an individual point of view that may change in a month anyway.
pricillia Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 I AM THE OBVIOUS REASON I have to go now. No offense intended. No offense, Um the avatar in itself is offensive PP and you know that, good go and report back to the other haters blah blah blah
erika2610 Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 No offense, Um the avatar in itself is offensive PP and you know that, good go and report back to the other haters blah blah blah Wow. That avatar says it all. I think she went back and took a few of her friends with her.. I was actually surprised when I saw that avatar.
BurntInNJ Posted February 12, 2007 Posted February 12, 2007 I was thinking of mailing exMM a sexy VD card, along with large box of his favorite chocolates and a Gift Certificate for an evening of fun at our favorite Hotel! Wifey now opens all his mail! Hmmmm, I wonder why he is your XMM? Well since the wife already knows about you and your mm is probably in the stage of incredible make up sex with his wife to prove how much more he loves her I am sure she would appreciate a lovely evening in a fine hotel all paid for by his little secret. I'm sure it's a lovely hotel right? I can't imagine you would lower yourself to sex in the local motel 6. I know BW would not find my idea of VD gifts for my exMM at all thoughtful, especially the members of YAMIMARRIED2THEPIG?VILLE :lmao: It was a joke! BTW - he was a narccissitc ****head and I kicked him to the curb . You are right, I am sure he is trying to get all the makeup sex he can - its the only thing he knows how to do is screw people (literally and figuratively)! No longer a secret! I love VD :love:
bellababygirl Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 I am giving his wife a copy of the dvds we made! Maybe she will get turned on and want to join in??? :bunny: :bunny:
mopar crazy Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 I know BW would not find my idea of VD gifts for my exMM at all thoughtful, especially the members of YAMIMARRIED2THEPIG?VILLE :lmao: It was a joke! BTW - he was a narccissitc ****head and I kicked him to the curb . You are right, I am sure he is trying to get all the makeup sex he can - its the only thing he knows how to do is screw people (literally and figuratively)! No longer a secret! I love VD :love: Oh, it was a joke?!?! Sorry, I forgot to laugh! You should be a stand up comic! Have you ever thought of pursuing that for a career? Good for you for kicking him to the curb! Did he finally start showing his true colors and you didn't like it? Honestly, I can't applaud you for kicking him to the curb b/c you and I both know damn well if he wasn't such a narcissistic d!ckhead you would of continued to f#ck a MM! This coming from a former OW and BW! BTDT!
mopar crazy Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 I am giving his wife a copy of the dvds we made! Maybe she will get turned on and want to join in??? :bunny: :bunny: Oh bellababy, grow up! Your username surely goes w/ your attitude! I highly doubt the W would get turned on by her WH banging some young twit and want to join in! PLZ!
Impudent Oyster Posted February 13, 2007 Posted February 13, 2007 I am giving his wife a copy of the dvds we made! Maybe she will get turned on and want to join in??? :bunny: :bunny: Great idea! Yes, I think you should definitely send them, get right on it, what else do you have to do....Does anyone else hear the theme from Twilight Zone playing in their head?
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