V._Confuzzled Posted January 25, 2007 Posted January 25, 2007 First of all, just want to say, i think it's great how everyone bands together on loveshack. Been reading posts for the past month or so, and well, they've helped me quite a bit. However, as the name suggests, im still one very confused individual. Basically, i was going out with my girlfriend (whom is 3 years older than me) for 2.5 years. We met when i was 17 (5 months before my 18th) and she'd just turned 21. About a week ago, i decided i needed a break, i didnt know how i felt anymore. I didnt know if i wanted to be in the relationship. She had no idea i felt this way, even to the extent that she text me the night before i told her i wanted a break, how much i meant to her, which made me feel terrible. Anyway, i said i needed to see her (i wasnt going to do the dump by text or whatever, i loved her too much and respected her enough to do it face to face (even though it scared the sh*t out of me)). Before i even said anything, she said straight away she didnt wanna split up. I told her i needed space to think about what i wanted (she's my first real long term relationship and i'm only 20). She has also been getting angry as i want to go out with friends (whom i lost contact with as a result of the relationship (totally my fault)). She agreed and we've so far had NC. What brought this all on though is about 2 months ago, a girl at work started talking to me a lot, about how bad her b/f had treated her. I was like a shoulder to cry on for her, telling her he was no good (and he really wasnt). I didnt fancy her then, but about a fortnight ago i couldnt stop thinking about her. I was confused and that's why i asked for a break from my long term g/f. 3 days ago, i was on the bus with this other girl, when we got off she gave me a hug, i didnt push her off, it felt good. We were good friends, but we had flirted, i thought nothing of it. She asked me to give her a lift to her car, i wasnt going to say no. When i got to her car she hugged me again (again i reciprocated) and we kissed. I know what everyone's thinking (i'm a git, what are you doing kissing another girl if your just on a break). This is it, i know deep down i should feel terrible, but i dont . I'm sitting here so confused! Do i tell my girlfriend of 2.5 years that over the break (which has only been a WEEK!!) i've found someone else, or that i just dont feel the same anymore. Or, do i tell this new girl i need some space (she works with me, so it may be difficult), and can we call it off for a while and go back to being friends (i am happy with her though). My girlfriends been an integral part of my life for 2.5 years, she's done nothing wrong, and i really dont want to lose contact with her forever . Please someone offer up some advice without calling me every name under the sun, i know i've done wrong, but it doesnt feel wrong.
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