insomnie Posted January 25, 2007 Posted January 25, 2007 Today I handled a situation in a completely different (and much healthier) way from how I normally would and I think I owe it all to LS. I think a year's reading of random threads has changed me into a saner, more tactful, more insightful person and I just wanted to say thank you. The situation: My boyfriend and I of 3 years are recently back together after two months apart due to unhappiness and fighting. Everything is going great, some major changes HAVE been made, but...in the 3 years I've known him, he's always kept me away from his friends. I've met about half of them briefly, the other half don't know I exist. That's always bothered me and I didn't like how exclusionary that other part of his life was. This started to depress me again and I realized I needed some change from him. Now, old me would have brooded about this for another month or so until I really began to resent him again, then exploded with something along the lines of "I don't wnat to be with you because it's obvious you don't love me because if you did you'd let me hang out with your friends." New me realized that if I want to stay with this person, I have to cut him some slack for not always being able to read my mind. And that I can't act like a two-year-old, or demand perfection, or be so insecure about his feelings. So instead I asked him whether I can come hang out with him and his friends on Friday. He said sure, that he'd pick me up before they got together. End of conversation...and a major problem, in my head, almost resolved. I'm just very proud of myself. That's all.
justagirliegirl Posted January 25, 2007 Posted January 25, 2007 That is awesome the way you handled it. I am wondering what you would have said if his answer had been no?
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