Romeo Must Die Posted January 25, 2007 Posted January 25, 2007 I was reading this on Yaywoo about men and dating and realized this could be a benefit to OW or BW. Thoughts? Comments? I feel that Romeo would have fit in the second catagory. The opposite of love being hate, blahbidy blah and so on. http://health.yahoo.com/experts/menlovesex/13411/what-his-last-relationship-says-about-your-current-one If He Says She Was Crazy, It Means ... He's still harboring intense feelings, and maybe a little guilt. By talking about her excessive stalking/nagging/obsession with Dr. Phil, he may be trying to show you that clearly there was something wrong with her, not him. But by putting her down so vehemently, it could mean he's trying to assuage some personal fear that he was somehow at fault. And even if she was a bunny boiler, the fact is that dysfunctional relationships generally rely on both parties being simultaneously, if not equally, unhinged. It may simply be that he isn't fully ready to concentrate on the present until those extreme feelings simmer down, and recede further into the past. If He Hopes Her Relationships Fail, It Means ... His brain's frontal lobes-which control obsessive thinking, worry, and inflexible behavior-are in overdrive. When this happens, the brain begins to work inefficiently, affecting moods and temper, which is how this type of thinking spirals not only into "If I can't have her, no one can," but equally dangerously, "I'll show her by dating somebody (anybody) else." If he wants his ex to fail, and himself to be seen as a winner, he may be exploring a relationship with you out of jealousy or revenge or something else. But subconsciously, he's also hoping that her failure may make her realize the error in dumping him, clearing the way for a reconciliation. In that case, you may be the tool he's using to make himself look more desirable. Sometimes being another person's plaything can be fun--but not if you're looking for a meaningful future. If He Tells You Details About the Breakup, It Means ... Under the guise of a story ("she did this, I did that, it didn't work out"), he's trying to offer up his personal product details-specifically, the things that he has adverse reactions to, whether it's not getting enough space, or lovin', or whatever. He'll fess up some of his faults, but he's also sending signals about who he's ultimately compatible with-and, more important, who he's not. Listen closely--he's giving you the instruction manual. If He Praises Her, It Means ... It may seem that any guy who compliments his ex to his new girlfriend has a one-way ticket on the train to Not Getting Any Tonight. But as long as he doesn't go on and on about all of his ex's remarkable qualities, his praise may very well be the sign that he's mature enough and ready for your relationship. What you're looking for is something on the order of: "She was and is a wonderful woman, and I wish her well, but we didn't offer each other the things we needed, which is why I'm with someone who does." After all, that's what you expect from a good man-that he's good to women
Babybird Posted January 25, 2007 Posted January 25, 2007 Lets see how I can word this...my MM talks trash about some things, like her obsessive compulsive need to clean and her insomnia but for the most part he has respect for her as a parent. She goes to bed at 6:30 in the evening and never wants to do anything out of the house. To be perfectly honest I think she's bisexual. She has a habit of licking other womens chests. That's just odd. It was really strange when she licked mine in front of MM. After that I didn't much care for her. Anyways... I don't know..can I have half he says she's crazy and half he praises her? Btw: Hello in WI!!!
puddleofmud Posted January 25, 2007 Posted January 25, 2007 And you are......worried about their behavior? Or your involvement in their behavior.... just curious?
Tomcat33 Posted January 25, 2007 Posted January 25, 2007 WOW Romeo this article is really insightful thank you so much for sharing this with us. It amazes me how many caring and willing people are on this site who want to share with others in distress. I'm so glad I stumbled upon this site!!! As per the info in the article I am happy to learn that my MM (well sepertated I should add) has NEVER badmouthed his W, NEVER. It used to worry me and make me think that he still loved her that he was still holding on to her with dear life but according to this article it could mean just the opposite. To be honest he barely spoke of her at all in the whole time I've known him and if he even shared any details of their split it was through my questioning of what went wrong and he never ever blamed her directly it was a dual effort as far as he was concerned. Anyhow to further prove what is in this article, I remember getting out of a relationship a few years back that had gone sour, neither one of us were happy anymore and we were on different pages as far as life's goals were concerned and this caused a lot of friction. Well when I finally got out I secretly wished him unhappiness and all the immature things you do when you are still hurting. I can relate to this article from my personal stand point that I still had strong feelings for him but blamed him for everything. Time and the years of experience that followed taught me that I had made some mistakes of my own in that relationship and that my ill feelings towards him were just my way of holding on.
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