katballoo Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 My ex and I broke up over Christmas, check previous post. But very briefly, had a stupid argument - I probably did a hundred things wrong and didn't back down, but he ended it saying obviously I can't give you what you need, so lets just end it then. He stuck to his guns, which I didn't think he would. I didn't cry or plead or take back my words, except to say I am sorry. But we had planned to take a holiday together that was prepaid, and non refundable. A few weeks of no contact and then I call him and ask what does he want to do about the holiday? He says well he doesn't think its a good idea to go as friends, but doesn't want to think about it now as he is going out of town on a big tournament (his work) and will call when he gets back to discuss. Another 3 weeks of no contact, except an email to ask for the details,which was friendly and polite. He calls yesterday and after polite friendly chit chat says, well lets go on the provision that we don't talk about the relationship. Which I agree. He kind of questioned whether I had been hooking up with anyone, although he said he has no right to ask. I said nobody and wouldn't be going on the trip if there was anyone in the wings. I didn't come right out and say I love you or miss you, just said I was looking forward to the holiday. THe holiday is in two weeks time and we have made no plans to see each other before then. I really love him and wish he would say lets work on us. We were still in love at point of break up and was kind of unplanned. He also said on the phone or intimated that it was my fault (but as he has hurt me alot in the past in previous years) he said, well we have caused each other enough pain, lets call it even and just go and have fun. We had issues, but nothing unsolvable if we were prepared to work at it. I don't know if I should risk making a move before we go on holidays and then stuff up the holiday or just take it easy and enjoy ourselves and hope there is a chance. We are going to an unbelievably beautiful Pacific Island that we were both looking forward to. What do you guys think? Would you be going with your ex if you didn't have any feelings or think there was a future? What do you think he could be thinking? I would really appreciate your input?
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