sultrybabe Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 Interesting, as most of you know I am in the middle of a business dispute with my EX MM. Something interesting happened last night. As some of you might remember from my original post for over a month I knew my married man to be a single divorced father of one child. I then was so nicely informed by his (he was seperated at the time), tha the was married and also had twin one year olds. I honestly keep asking myself how I could not know he was married, well there are a lot of reasons but most likely because he lives in another state, they were seperated so she wasn't at the house when he talked to me, and he is a commercial airline pilot so he flies and travels frequently which enables him to live a lifestyle that allows for him to cover up the TRUE him. That said after finding out he was married I wanted nothing to do with him. had he been honest that he was seperated from the start I would probably have felt different but the lies really hurt me. About a week after finding out he had "Tom" call me up and tell me how "Scott's" wife was this horrible person. Tom is the person that she dated after she left Scott. He seemed genuine and I believed him. Well I have never spoken to the guy again, until just the other day. I don't know what possessed me but I decided to call him. He returned my call and we have chatted via email and phone. He feels that both Scott and his wife are basically "evil". He was very supportive and interestingly enough told me that he has done everything in his power to avoid thse people. This is interesting because Scott used to tell me he was going to have drinks with Tom, Tom informed me he has NEVER had drinks with Scott. This occured frequently so I guess that was just his alibi. But anyway The interesting part is that I am really wonder if I was being scammed, if it was intentional? Tom seems to thinks so, he is actually concerned for my well being. He says he puts nothing past either one. But why develop a relationship with someone for SIX months just to scam them? It is all confusing to me. Anyways an email from Tom follows...I found it interesting but a little scary to think about if he is right! TOMS EMAIL - - - - Rebecca, you are truly welcome. Believe me, I know and understand the mental and physical pain that you are enduring. It took me three months to get past my issues of feeling like I some how did something wrong and trying to give the individual the benefit of the doubt. Trust me, your (as was mine) only fault was caring and believing in someone that you loved and cared for and thought by their words and actions that they in turn cared for you, when in fact, those people are incapable of true feelings…their words and actions were only meant to elicit a reaction to make you act in a way they want you to…it is directly compared to the emotions of a serial killer that is incapable of feeling regret or remorse for the hurt and pain they have caused their victims, family, and friends. I am an individual that believes deeply in the good intentions of others and I found myself…an intelligent and mature person…totally blindsided by the whole and complete “production” for the hour by hour drama that is always unfolding. I don’t understand the actions being taken because they so dramatically conflict with the words and the excuses and “spin” put on everything is just amazing….they can successfully explain EVERYTHING away! (It is too bad they don’t use their “powers” for good instead of evil…they could be great political spokespeople! LOL). Anyway, the BEST advice I can offer you is to refocus on YOU, what you need in your life both personally and professionally and move forward, don’t allow yourself to be drawn back in with empty words or actions of affection, you will get to a point soon where you will see that you would never be happy again…continuing to live the drama…my realization was that it was NEVER going to end and that my trust was permanently destroyed…and without trust there can be NO relationship, NO friendship, NO business relationship, NOTHING…so, let it go for your own sake…I too felt I found the love of my life and for a while I was the happiest person, but once I had given of myself fully to that person they took advantage of that and I was the most miserable person I have ever been, I had even considered going back with my ex, I knew I could at least trust her fully.
outofdarkness Posted January 25, 2007 Posted January 25, 2007 Sounds like alot of mind games to me. Your post is sort of hard to follow, but it sounds like everyone involved is well...Too involved! A's are fueled by secrecy and lies, for ALL involved. Of course people get scammed who are involved in any way in A's...That is part of the draw...
MoonGirl Posted January 25, 2007 Posted January 25, 2007 Are you sure Tom is who he says he is? Don't get yourself in any deeper. Work on getting yourself out!
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