BlueEyedSarah Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 When a guy dumps a girl does he ever come back and want to get back in contact? When is this often expected? Does it always happen or not?
RocketMan2 Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 Well it obviously depends on the situation. I've not had any experiences with which to comment either way. Noone can ever truly know what someone else is thinking. All you can do is work on yourself to be as good a person as you can. If you have to work to show someone "what youre really like" then they aren't the right person for you. They should be able to see it.
PussInHeels Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 I agree it depends on the situation. I guess I guy will come back if he thinks he's made a mistake by dumping the girl.
resi71 Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 the guy will come quiclie than girl.he be back
Art_Critic Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 Of all the girls I have dumped or that have dumped me I have only tried to go back to one..
Moai Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 I have never been back to a girl with whom I broke up. Once I realized that I didn't want them, I never wanted to see them again. And didn't.
silentcharon Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 They come back when you've moved on. I don't know why, but it has happened to me. I have no idea why exes choose to come back when people get new so's, because then there's nothing anyone can do about it at that point. Why don't they come back when we're all single still? It would make better sense. But then, that's just me... meh.
Art_Critic Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 I have never been back to a girl with whom I broke up. Once I realized that I didn't want them, I never wanted to see them again. And didn't. Same here.. but I have done the whole heartbreak looking for closure thing.. The one girl I did try and get back with I pulled all stops out and failed.. I looked like an idiot..
crazy_grl Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 They come back when you've moved on. I don't know why, but it has happened to me. I have no idea why exes choose to come back when people get new so's, because then there's nothing anyone can do about it at that point. Why don't they come back when we're all single still? It would make better sense. I agree, except when guys have tried to come back, I've still been single, just not interested in them anymore. I think I've had more guys try to come back than not, at least 5 of them. Except the first one, it's always been after I'm over them and don't want them back. My advice would be to just try to move on as though they're not coming back.
dropdeadlegs Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 For me men often want to come back, but either I was resolute in my not wanting them back, or they made too big of a mistake to even consider taking them back. Most of the rest of my relationships have just fizzled beyond repair and that was agreed to by both parties. My current BF excluded. I did work hard to make him choose me, but then again we never really broke up. He thought he may still be in love with his ex initially, but she is ancient history now.
Davis Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 Hey Sarah. You're getting good advice from everyone on here. Like they said, it depends on the situation and how it ended. I think you need to continue NC and don't assume he will come back. Go on some dates and do your best to move forward. I agree, when you find someone else they seem to come back. It seems to change the "energy" when you start dating someone else and they seem to come back. That's what happened with my ex. She saw me out with another girl. You also have to try to put all your emotions aside and ask if you really would want him back. Does he truly have the character, qualities and traits that you really want? Always be careful if you take them back, it seems most often it doesn't work out. If they left you once, they usually will leave you again. Hang in there!
BlueEyedSarah Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 Hey Sarah. You're getting good advice from everyone on here. Like they said, it depends on the situation and how it ended. I think you need to continue NC and don't assume he will come back. Go on some dates and do your best to move forward. I agree, when you find someone else they seem to come back. It seems to change the "energy" when you start dating someone else and they seem to come back. That's what happened with my ex. She saw me out with another girl. You also have to try to put all your emotions aside and ask if you really would want him back. Does he truly have the character, qualities and traits that you really want? Always be careful if you take them back, it seems most often it doesn't work out. If they left you once, they usually will leave you again. Hang in there! Thanks for this advice Davis. I see what your saying. It helps what you said
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