MustBeLove Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 A few months ago I noticed that one of my MM testis felt different. It was/ is very hard, and has a little ball like thing on it. I said something to him, but he just pushed it off. We have been under a lot of stress in the past few weeks. He has been very tired and just run down. 2 nights ago he told me that he has been looking up his symptoms and he thinks that he might have testicular cancer. We know that something is wrong, but not sure what it is yet. Still waiting for him to see the Dr. Anyways, I'm scared out of my mind. I'm worried for him and everything he will have to go through. Then I get mad at my self because I start thinking about me, and how this will be hard on us because I wouldn't be able to see him, and be there for him because if he does have it then he would have stay at his house because of the side affects and all of that stuff. We talked about it and he was thinking the same thing and didn't want to not see me either. He also told me that he would understand if I wanted to run in the other direction, and leave him. I don't. I want to be closer to him more now then ever. I know that this is going to be hard on us. Hard on everyone. I'm not sure what is going to happen. I'm very scared, and I don't want to loose him. Before all of this, I was going to ask him the " when are you leaving" question. We talked for about a min on the subject. Then he didn't want to talk about it then. I understood. It was very late, and we have been through so much in the past few weeks already. I'm not sure where things are going to head in the next few weeks. I just wanted to come on here and vent. I'm the only one that knows.
sb129 Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 If he doesn't get medical attention soon, you may lose him! This isn't about you right now. Its about him and his health. I have a friend who's BF had TC. Its very very tough. You will have to support him best you can. IF it is TC (and I hope it isn't) then you will have to deal withit one day at a time. Stop thinking about yourself so much. He must be freaking out, and support is what he needs. If he still lives with his W, sorry to say, but she will be more actively involved than you if he does get sick. One of the pitfalls of being an OW.
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 MBL, I'm really sorry to hear what you and your MM is going through. Hey, at least you found it? But now, it needs to be dealt with. It could be one of many many things, but at worst, TC caught early has good prospects. It does bring up a lot of questions about the OW role in illness. You need to be there for him as much as you can and encourage him to see his doc. Sometimes something that rocks your existence can really have a profound affect on your life and that could be a consequence for either your relationship or his M. I think it's honest to say you wonder about your R. Of course you do - if you love someone it becomes not a question of how does is affect "me" but how does affect "us". Warranted. However, these thoughts need to remain on the backburner until you have a clearer picture of what he's dealing with. Get him to that docs!
norajane Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 You found this months ago and he still hasn't been to the doctor??! If caught early, it's highly treatable. If not, then it can spread to the lymph nodes in the stomach, and then beyond to the liver and lungs. WTF is he waiting for?
Author MustBeLove Posted January 24, 2007 Author Posted January 24, 2007 He didn't even think twice about it in tell he started to feel a little pain every now and then. That's what made him go to the Dr. Men are stupid when it comes to seeing the Dr. He has an apt. Its just waiting and see what they say right now. I would do anything for my MM. How his health is my number one concern. We are best friends, and I will be there for him no matter what. And he knows that. Thank you everyone for letting me vent.
puddleofmud Posted January 25, 2007 Posted January 25, 2007 I shall pray that through every medical advantage that any needed treatment shall be successful.
whichwayisup Posted January 25, 2007 Posted January 25, 2007 I would do anything for my MM. How his health is my number one concern. We are best friends, and I will be there for him no matter what. And he knows that. You may not like this answer I'm giving, but you need to be aware of the possibility that he may tell you to back off, especially if it's serious. I doubt very much he'll invite you to the house, to help him etc., because of the obvious..... Make sure you have a support system, shoulders to cry on if necessary during this IF it turns out to be bad news. Try not to worry too much, for all you know it could just be a fatty cyst in one of his nuts. Those are painful as well.
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