BUTAFLY Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 So this guy (43) at work trys to flirt with me. I made it clear that I have a S.O. There was one time where he made an overtly sexual comment to me and I told him that was inappropriate..that we did NOT have that type of relationship and that it was disrepectful to me and my S.O. He appolgized and from there on we became friends. NO flirting or sexual overtones. I speak of my S.O to him and he tells me of the different women he dates. Even tells me hes been dating 1 particuar women for over a year but has other women he sees on the side. Well today a male coworker tells me he met this guys finance:eek: !! I was suprised because he is always talking about dating ow. When I saw this guy at work I asked him about it. So you finally decided to settle down? He laughs and says What she doesn't know won't hurt her...It hasn't up till now. I swear...I lost all respect for this man. WTF!!! Why do they do this??? BTW he has been engaged for months and talks to me like he is a single man and even say he doens't believe in marriage and will never marry. WHy is he lying to me He knows I don't want him. Men confuse me!!
norajane Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 The only way he's going to get more women to date is if he keeps making a play for them, and talking to women like he's single. That's what he's doing. He knows you don't know his fiancee and wouldn't say anything to her even if you did, so he feels safe in talking to you the way he does. He's a loser. Too bad no one will his fiancee before she marries him.
herenow Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 If all the women these type of men approached said what you did, there would be no need for this forum and no devastated BW's and OW.
Author BUTAFLY Posted January 24, 2007 Author Posted January 24, 2007 If all the women these type of men approached said what you did, there would be no need for this forum and no devastated BW's and OW. Ok, lets not get it twisted. If the men were faithful there wouldn't be a need for this forum or the infidelity room or the breaking up room. BTW.. I asked another male coworker if he knew this guy was engaged and he said no...he didn't believe me when I told him so he asked him directly and he denied it? What is that point of that? I just don't get it.
GreenEyedLady Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 Ok, lets not get it twisted. If the men were faithful there wouldn't be a need for this forum or the infidelity room or the breaking up room. GO BUTAFLY!!!
Author BUTAFLY Posted January 24, 2007 Author Posted January 24, 2007 So yesterday i tell another male coworker that this guy is engaged. He refuses to believe me because of the various women he sees him with and the stories he tells the guys at work. So this coworker calls over the 'engaged' man and says "whats this I hear about a wedding?" The enagaged man says "What wedding? Who's getting married?" the co-worker says "butafly, seems to think you are." engaged man replys, "That's funny... I don't know what your talking about, " and then he walks away. I was dumbfounded......I understand not wanting women to know, but to lie to another man? This man is a total pig. I feel sorry for the fiancee because from what I hear she is really nice, sporting a huge 2 carrot ring, will talk about her wedding to anyone who will listen & is eager to show pictures of her soon to be husband. All the while he is straight up denying the fact that she even exisits. If this is the life style he wants then why get married? and if she knows his dogish ways then why marry him?
outofdarkness Posted January 25, 2007 Posted January 25, 2007 The other day, I asked my H, who works for a large fortune 500 Co, in a very high executive position, what the policy was for dating coworkers...He came back to me and said there was not one..I know this is not the case, as I remember it coming up shortly after D day. My question after reading these particular posts is, HOW does this stuff go on so openly and blatently, without reprecusions??? Wouldn't some of these people get in trouble or fired if their "extracurriculars" were found out by HR? Or do the employees in HR do it too? I am asking b/c I really don't understand...How do people that work outside the home in a more traditional office setting; I operate my business from home, get ANY work done??? Sorry if it seemed that I threadjacked or got off topic...
Author BUTAFLY Posted January 27, 2007 Author Posted January 27, 2007 They know because they all do it. At my company husband and wife can not work together. a few couple got married and one partner has to leave.
silktricks Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 Ok, lets not get it twisted. If the men were faithful there wouldn't be a need for this forum or the infidelity room or the breaking up room. you're saying that only men are unfaithful?
Can'tGiveUp Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 The other day, I asked my H, who works for a large fortune 500 Co, in a very high executive position, what the policy was for dating coworkers...He came back to me and said there was not one..I know this is not the case, as I remember it coming up shortly after D day. My question after reading these particular posts is, HOW does this stuff go on so openly and blatently, without reprecusions??? Wouldn't some of these people get in trouble or fired if their "extracurriculars" were found out by HR? Or do the employees in HR do it too? I am asking b/c I really don't understand...How do people that work outside the home in a more traditional office setting; I operate my business from home, get ANY work done??? Sorry if it seemed that I threadjacked or got off topic... There is no policy where I work. There has been (to my knowledge) one blatant affair (both married)...they became a little more discreet when it was pointed out to him that it wasn't just the women in the office that were talking but that upper management were too. That ended at some point and now she no longer works there. There have been some singles date as well. They seemed to cause more impact within the work environment when they break up, but to my knowledge it was never an issue with consequences. To be honest I don't believe any company should be able to dictate the private lives of their employees, provided it doesn't impact on their performance at work.
Author BUTAFLY Posted January 28, 2007 Author Posted January 28, 2007 you're saying that only men are unfaithful? What are you talking about? Don't be silly. Read the context of the conversation if your confused...it on this same page, just scroll up. BTW people, If you ever feel the need to comment on a portion of a conversation, please read the entire converation before doing so to understand the context and things already covered. It just keeps things flowing.
silktricks Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 What are you talking about? Don't be silly. Read the context of the conversation if your confused...it on this same page, just scroll up. BTW people, If you ever feel the need to comment on a portion of a conversation, please read the entire converation before doing so to understand the context and things already covered. It just keeps things flowing. I wasn't confused. :D Maybe you could re-read what you wrote??
Can'tGiveUp Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 I wasn't confused. :D Maybe you could re-read what you wrote?? She was responding to Herenow...and Herenow picked the gender roles in her post. No one is suggesting that only men are unfaithful.
Virgo1982 Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 If all the women these type of men approached said what you did, there would be no need for this forum and no devastated BW's and OW. He's going around saying he's single. If she didn't have an SO, there would have been no reason for her not to date him, except for the fact that he made a sexual comment before he really got to know her. Who cares why he does what he does. Just be glad that you don't have to deal with it. If you still want to maintain some sort of friendship with him, refuse to talk about his women or your own relationship. Your SO would probably not be pleased that you talk with this hunter about your personal business.
outofdarkness Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 There is no policy where I work. There has been (to my knowledge) one blatant affair (both married)...they became a little more discreet when it was pointed out to him that it wasn't just the women in the office that were talking but that upper management were too. That ended at some point and now she no longer works there. There have been some singles date as well. They seemed to cause more impact within the work environment when they break up, but to my knowledge it was never an issue with consequences. To be honest I don't believe any company should be able to dictate the private lives of their employees, provided it doesn't impact on their performance at work. I don't believe that a company has the right to dictate their employee's personal lives either, but I DO NOT believe that it is appropriate or productive for a single attractive woman to date a married superior...It's just asking for trouble. Who's gonna be there to defend the superior when the younger subordinate cries se----- harr??? Most companies do have some sort of policy about this very issue with a clause that includes dating...
outofdarkness Posted January 30, 2007 Posted January 30, 2007 of course, there are plently of MM out there who remove their rings and tell W that they are single. If they travel for work, who is going to know? Just wanted to add that.. There is alot of deception that goes on in the workplace and it just adds to the thrill of it all..
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