UnsureInNZ Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 Hi I am 30 years old and never dated before. Recently, a girl I'm attracted to (and was building up the confidence to ask out) asked me out. Very happily I said yes. That night we went out, saw a movie, chatted for hours in a cafe and went for a walk. The night was a lot of fun and we both agreed that we'd like to see each other again. I should note that we're mutual friends of a friend, so have known each other and done things as a group for several years now. This was great in removing any awkwardness on the first date. We've since had a second date and she's accepted my request for a third date, which I promised to make more romantic, (since the first two weren't really). We're both not really 'experienced' in the dating scene so aren't rushing things. Hence my problem. I know I want to do something that's just the two of us, but don't know what 'romantic' is. I have the following planned for this Friday, (one week after she asked me out), but am not too sure. I was thinking, not dinner, (for reasons explained later), but rather coffee and a bite in a quiet cafe where we can talk. Then or maybe, probably before hand actually, visit an arcade. We went to one on the first date as she really likes them and we had great fun. Good for breaking any tension. My plan culminates with a drive into the hills to see a comet which is passing by at the moment, but it's not really visible till after 10pm, (weather permitting), hence my after dinner start. Also, I'd like to postpone the dinner if possible as I'm a bit short of cash and would prefer to take her out on Valentines day to a nice restaurant. She also likes bears, (the stuffed ones) so I figured if we're still together on Valentines I could get her one then. I was planning on taking flowers come Friday. Gah, so I'd really appreciate any advice you can offer, am I on the right track here, am I overthinking the whole thing? Thank you.
Star Gazer Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 I wouldn't repeat the arcade so soon - you don't want to appear boring. I'm not sure where you're located and what the weather's like there, but because bowling was fun, how about something else that's similarly cheezy/fun? Like bowling? Or mini-golf if it's not too cold? Those are my absolute favorite things to do on early dates (I'm 28, BTW). I'd say dinner first, followed by the activity. Play the comet thing by ear... maybe mention how cool/unique it is during dinner, see if she'd be interested in seeing it by gaging her reaction. Ya follow?
revolutionphilosophy Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 I agree with Star for the most part... there's no real need to go all 'super-romantic ultra-casanova' quite yet... just lay back and have fun. Bowling... mini-golf... etc are always fun and inventive dates. Not sure how much I agree with telling her about the comet... I've always been one for big surprises... they make life a little more interesting.
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