ae4e Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 Hey, my exs birthday is coming up, and I NEVER forget anyones birthday, and of course I have not forgot hers; is it a bad idea to just get her a simple card to wish her a Happy Birthday? I am not implying that I want her back, I just always remember peoples b-days like that? Good idea or bad? My ex and I are not on bad terms, so...meh
Art_Critic Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 I am not implying that I want her back, Yes you are.. Ex's don't send people they used to date cards unless they want them back..
Author ae4e Posted January 23, 2007 Author Posted January 23, 2007 Well, we both gave each other Christmas gifts, they were not anything elaborate or anything, but we did. So why would giving a birthday card be a bad thing?
daisydo Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 I think if considerable time has passed since the break up you can send a friendly card. But listen to this: The only men who call me or send me anything on my birthday (aside from family members of course) are those who I have either had relationships with in the past who I know still care for me or friends that wish we were more than friends. I know this sounds pompous but I recently had a conversation and realized that of all the men that called me on my birthday - none were "just friends" completely. I am a firm believer of the idea that MOST men cannot be just friends with a girl. That's just me though. Best of luck.
rob1sinner Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 i asked the same exact question you did about a month back. i think theres no harm in making a brief phone call to say Happy Birthday. i went ahead and called her and everything went well. the only thing i suggest you don't do is engage in a conversation with her. just make it quick otherwise it does seem like you want her back. in your case i guess its even better cuz your sending her a birthday card in the mail so u wont have any contact with her at all
Am4Real Posted January 26, 2007 Posted January 26, 2007 For me, years would have to pass before I really beleived there were not other intentions in the Birthday wish, otherwise like several of the other posters I would speculate there is (or wishes there were) other intentions or desires.
rob1sinner Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 well man its really up to you. these are just suggestions but u do whatever feels right to YOU. if u decide to be mature, be real and just look past everything then go ahead and call her. no harm in doing so......u said u guys were in good terms so just do it.
Lonestar Posted January 27, 2007 Posted January 27, 2007 Hey, my exs birthday is coming up, and I NEVER forget anyones birthday, and of course I have not forgot hers; is it a bad idea to just get her a simple card to wish her a Happy Birthday? I am not implying that I want her back, I just always remember peoples b-days like that? Good idea or bad? My ex and I are not on bad terms, so...meh No. Unless the two of you are one of the few ex-couples who have remained friends, there is no reason for you to send her a birthday card. It doesn't matter what terms you're on. Stop trying to get her to think about you. Send a card to a girl who you'd like to date in the future instead. Focus your energy on someone else.
Unbeleivable Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 A card shows some effort. going to the store, searching, buying, etc. I would just either drop a message or quick call depending on your communication level.
luvtoto Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 Hey, my exs birthday is coming up, and I NEVER forget anyones birthday, and of course I have not forgot hers; is it a bad idea to just get her a simple card to wish her a Happy Birthday? I am not implying that I want her back, I just always remember peoples b-days like that? Good idea or bad? My ex and I are not on bad terms, so...meh Do you still have hope for the relationship?
CaliGuy Posted January 28, 2007 Posted January 28, 2007 I wouldn't, but that's just me. If she's not in your life and she isn't making any real effort to stay in it, I wouldn't waste my time.
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