handsome Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 Hi guys this is really freaking me out. To start with I have a girlfriend for about 2 years now. I really love her and she does too. we both go to same college. Recently this semister when the college started we met a guy I mean we added a guy to our small group which is of me, my girlfriend, her sister, and another girl. I have classes with my gf sister from 9-10 a.m, 10-11 and 11-12 pm. and while Im gone my girlfriend is free from 10-12pm. so neways let me get to the point. In between these hours when Im in the class this new guy who is half indian and african who spends time talking with my girlfriend on the campus. so when I come I see her all happy and smilling. I feel kind of jealous and Intimitated because I see her paying more attention in what he has to say. she listens very closely what he is saying and paying very close attention to him and he talks a lot. so I kind of keep quiet most of the time and pretending that Im involved but actually Im worried and dont like this. Even though Im just putting my happy face in the group just to fill it in and not make it abovious. but sometimes in the middle of the converstaion my girlfriend notices that and asks me what's wrong and I just nod to her saying nothing and showing nothing wrong. this issue is freaking me out that I will loose my girlfriend to this guy or something and after coming to home I dont feel nothing good and Im frustrated to do anything and thinking about her all the time. But Im very sure she loves me and we have a very close relationship and yes we have made lvoe lots of time even though Im the one who is always initiating . she calls me a rabbit because I keep going even after we have done a couple of times. I dont know Im very sensitive and very emotional guy. and this is my second real relationship. I really need some help. what should I do? but Im very open when my girlfriend is not in the group I mean Im laughing and smilling and all. but when she is there I get all these feelings and thoughts and I get worried that I will loose her. are my thoughts real or it is just I dont know what to say!!!. but your serious comments will really help me to really undersatand this issue. should i do something? or should I talk about this to my girlfriend and tell her how I feel and then I feel If I tell her this will make me look like Im insure and I dont trust her or I dont love her or Im too sensitive. I dont know what to do please help Im sorry this is really long but I reall need some serious comments. thank you very much
whichwayisup Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 She could just enjoy his company, and like him. Just like the rest of the gang and you as well. DO you feel that this guy is making the moves on your girlfriend? Keep things in perspective. If it's just enjoying conversation, he's nice and funny, then that's not enough reason to get jealous/wonder if she will breakup with you to go for him...Think about it - She'd be ruining the good friendships you ALL have together as a group. She says and acts like she loves you. Right?? Until she gives you real reason to worry (like the two of them hangout more alone than with the rest of the group, they talk on the phone alot, email eachother, flirt and become affectionate) I wouldn't worry too much. What you CAN do though is Woo your girlfriend. Pay special attention to her, do nice things, be romantic. Set aside special time so you can be alone. Buy her a present for no reason! Flowers, or a CD. Hope this helps!
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