princess75 Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 What do you do...when you realize your husband of just 6 months is JUST NOT INTO YOU! ???>!!!?????
Author princess75 Posted January 22, 2007 Author Posted January 22, 2007 Actually wants sex....but not relationship... No sharing of feelings, no sahring of budgt, no sharing of anything EXCEPT SEX!
Storyrider Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 Actually wants sex....but not relationship... No sharing of feelings, no sahring of budgt, no sharing of anything EXCEPT SEX! Well, how long did you date? Was he like this before you married him, or did he change?
Author princess75 Posted January 22, 2007 Author Posted January 22, 2007 He changed as soon as we got married.....2 weeks after. Dated for over year and half.
Storyrider Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 He changed as soon as we got married.....2 weeks after. Dated for over year and half. Well that sucks. Sounds like he's taking you for granted.
whichwayisup Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 Tell him you two need to work on the marriage, or the relationship between you two is gonna get worse and could end up in divorce. Suggest marriage counselling!
TheDC Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 only six months in? I'd just ask for an annulment and call it quits.
Mr. Lucky Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 He changed as soon as we got married.....2 weeks after. Dated for over year and half. I'm sorry princess75, but I have a hard time believing this. You're saying that in the 18 months you dated that he not only was "into you" but that he gave satisfactory replies to the questions you asked as part of the discussions about the future that all couples have? And no red flags were raised in his conduct or answers? Is there an income disparity between the two of you? Is there an attempt by either party to gain citizenship? Any arranged aspect to your marriage. We need more details... Mr. Lucky
MoonGirl Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 Problems already at 6 months? If I were you, I'd certainly talk to your hubby about your concerns and get some advice from a professional. 6 months of marriage is not long, and if your hubby is already taking you for granted, then I can't see it getting any better without help. If I were you, I'd seriously consider thinking about what you want and deserve in life. Marriage only gets more complicated with time (kids, more mutual investments, etc). Can you see yourself growing old with your husband?
Author princess75 Posted January 22, 2007 Author Posted January 22, 2007 Hello all, thanks for all the questions and concerns.. Interestingly enough..there is a big disaparity in income: I have my own plance, earn and work legally in the US. He basically is here....and earns less... I am Canadian, so idea was for him to go studies in Canada and then I can sponsor him. It boil down to: 'You said you were going to give me papers, I need your help." (when talking about not into me problems) and if you are not going to please tell me now so we can get a divorce and I can marry someone else here. (USA) So......after all this...............................perplexed, and the ball is in my court right? Ah....he is going to stay with me after getting his papers ...as a "favor" So.....any suggestions? I mean, this was the guy I was doing future with....
IpAncA Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 You two REALLY need to sit down and talk about this and consider marriage counseling. 'You said you were going to give me papers, I need your help." (when talking about not into me problems) and if you are not going to please tell me now so we can get a divorce and I can marry someone else here. (USA) This is not a reason to marry someone IMO. Is that the only reason he wants to stay with you?
sb129 Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 Hello all, thanks for all the questions and concerns.. Interestingly enough..there is a big disaparity in income: I have my own plance, earn and work legally in the US. He basically is here....and earns less... I am Canadian, so idea was for him to go studies in Canada and then I can sponsor him. It boil down to: 'You said you were going to give me papers, I need your help." (when talking about not into me problems) and if you are not going to please tell me now so we can get a divorce and I can marry someone else here. (USA) So......after all this...............................perplexed, and the ball is in my court right? Ah....he is going to stay with me after getting his papers ...as a "favor" So.....any suggestions? I mean, this was the guy I was doing future with.... Ding dong. Warning bells! Sister, it doesn't sound so good from where I am sitting. Do you own your place? Where is he from? Do NOT do NOT do NOT sign anything over to him. See your lawyer to see where you stand. If he is only with you for his papers, see if you can get the marriage annulled so he can't get his mitts on anything of yours, including the papers. And if he IS getting married to people just for a visa thats illegal, and I am sure your internal/ immigration affairs office would be interested to know about him.
Mr. Lucky Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 Hello all, thanks for all the questions and concerns.. Interestingly enough..there is a big disaparity in income: I have my own plance, earn and work legally in the US. He basically is here....and earns less... I am Canadian, so idea was for him to go studies in Canada and then I can sponsor him. I hate it when I'm right. Time to get out and quick Mr. Lucky
tommyr Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 I hate it when I'm right. Time to get out and quick Mr. Lucky Damn, never woulda thought of that question. So thats why the name is Mr Lucky! Agree the marriage is a sham and you should do everything to protect yourself financially.
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