Guest Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 i know this may come across very meaningless and childish, but please bear with it. i am well aware of the stupidity of the situation, considering we were not going out, have not done anything, and are just in high school, however, SHE does not, and has set her hopes far too high, and i can't bear to crush them so here's the rather foolish story: some friends of mine tried setting me up with this girl, and it seemed ok at the start. the first few nights she was not able to come out, so we ended up just talking over the internet for a long time. she seemed really cool, but i hadn't seen her in real life and everything was way too weird. so the other night i just showed up at her house, and the next morning we actually hung out (without going into much detail, the circumstances around me actually going to see her were... without a big description... rather bizarre, and she was OVERWHELMINGLY happy i actually did came). unfortunately, i realized when i met her in real life that didn't quite feel "that" way about her. my problem now is that she has fallen UNBELIEVABLY in love with me, and as i just said, i basically have no feelings for her (at least in that way). i don't mean to sound conceited, but i happen to be very a nice, good looking, popular guy, and considering i do not believe she has had all that much luck with past relationships, you can imagine how it got her hopes really high. she won't stop talking about it to her friends, and i know word regarding "us" is going to be everywhere (which is only going to fill her mind with more ideas). i need to somehow let her know it isn't going to work out the way she is hoping, and i am frantically trying to figure out how to do it without absolutely crushing her. i want to just come out completely honest, just tell her i don't want to be anymore than friends, however this is much easier said than done, and i'm positive even this will probably leave her shattered so my main question is, what is the nicest way anyone can come up with to break the big news to her, without making her feel completely depressed for the next few weeks (by considering the situation, which i have not FULLY described, i believe this is how long it would take if i just said "let's be friends" at this precise moment) Thanks for all the help, Eric R.
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