whizzle Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 So my ex has a new BF. That's fine, as long as she's happy. She's been real good friends with him for about 2.5 years he is currently just over 4 hrs away at school (he used to live out here), he will be moving back in the summer (minor details yada yada). But the thing is, he still has a pic of him and HIS ex on his myspace in the picture section with the caption "will we ever be together again". ummm, ok, WTF is up with that? . Only couple days ago he put up a pic of him and my ex with the caption "freakin <3" , they have been together "officially" for a month or so. So if he likes my ex so much, why is there a pic of him and his ex still, and why is my ex ok with this. Obviously my ex has seen the pic of him and his ex, wtf is she thinking? What the hell is the deal here :\ For the record, I'm glad she's happy, and I am moving on as well and I'm meeting some new girls, this just has been on my mind the past couple days cause it definitely ISN'T normal, and I just want some opinions to help clear my mind of this stuff for good. Thanks everyone.
shockandawed Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 For the record, I'm glad she's happy, and I am moving on as well and I'm meeting some new girls, this just has been on my mind the past couple days cause it definitely ISN'T normal, and I just want some opinions to help clear my mind of this stuff for good. Thanks everyone. Whizzle, Honestly, it doesn't appear as you are moving on if you are consumed with the myspaces of your ex and her new boyfriend. Man, I know the urge to look for that stuff, but you are only delaying your healing. Get the hell off of myspace for awhile. Don't update yours and definitely don't look at your ex's. You will read into everything....Maybe she has met the love of her life, maybe she is just putting this stuff on there to screw with you, maybe the boyfriend is still in love with his ex, maybe the boyfriend is trying to screw with your ex....get the point, who can decipher and all you will do is drive yourself crazy in the meantime.. I am so glad my ex and I don't have myspace accounts.
Author whizzle Posted January 22, 2007 Author Posted January 22, 2007 Whizzle, Honestly, it doesn't appear as you are moving on if you are consumed with the myspaces of your ex and her new boyfriend. Man, I know the urge to look for that stuff, but you are only delaying your healing. Get the hell off of myspace for awhile. Don't update yours and definitely don't look at your ex's. You will read into everything....Maybe she has met the love of her life, maybe she is just putting this stuff on there to screw with you, maybe the boyfriend is still in love with his ex, maybe the boyfriend is trying to screw with your ex....get the point, who can decipher and all you will do is drive yourself crazy in the meantime.. I am so glad my ex and I don't have myspace accounts. This is why I put a "for the record" on my post, so people wouldn't try to tell me to just move on. I deleted my myspace maybe a month and a half ago, his and hers are both private, so I can't view them, but there are ways to view private pics (which will be fixed soon anyways), I viewed some pics on his myspace. All I wanted to see was what the dude looked like lol. No big deal. I know what needs to be done on my part. I appreciate your advice/concern, I honestly just want some opinions on this situation. Nothing more, nothing less. I have posted here a while back about my situation on another name, but I'm over that stage. I'm content with the fact that it's over between us. I really am at the stage of moving on. I blocked her AIM, deleted phone numbers (a while ago), I don't talk about it to anyone, if it comes up, I still don't talk about it. But this isn't a post about whether or not I'm moving on.I just wanted some opinions on a simple question.....that is all lol.
bubbalump Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 any other thoughts on this? Hey Hey, Just don't look at the pics, she doesn't deserve your thought or time. When you look at pics of her or her new boyfriend, you still put energy towards her that she doesn't deserve. I know you say you are over her, and you most likely are, but it accomplishes nothing looking at the pics. To answer your question, "what is she thinking?" Who the hell cares, not your problem anymore. Best of Luck man.
Author whizzle Posted January 23, 2007 Author Posted January 23, 2007 it's just seems kinda weird to me and I want to know why someone would do that, and why the other person would be ok with that. I know I would never have a pic of my ex with that caption while I have a new GF.
underpants Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 Dude, I can't tell you why. Some people are just not too respectful I guess. Really, you can't get into someone else's headspace. My ex is all over the my space with several ex pics, blogs about ex's and all the while this is going on he was writing me emails as to how much he missed me. I rationalize this is just one sick puppy that collects women more so then actually cares for and respects them. Maybe it's the attention, or the 'status?' of having so many ladies still wanting your affections. I don't know. I think if you spread yourself that thin, you will only wind up in shallow situations. I would ask myself why, why would someone (aside from our break) do this. The answer is that there is just no answer. It is not my place to impose my idea of morality onto someone else, especially someone who chose to leave in pursuit of other interests. Like I said you can't get into their headspace and it's best to know you did the best you could do and leave your heart open for the next person. Sometimes you just have to shake your head and walk away. Eventually, you will be thankful that you did not settle for less then you deserve. If I were you I would just leave it alone and move on. Leave her be for a while, in this life and the virtual one.
Author whizzle Posted January 23, 2007 Author Posted January 23, 2007 Dude, I can't tell you why. Some people are just not too respectful I guess. Really, you can't get into someone else's headspace. My ex is all over the my space with several ex pics, blogs about ex's and all the while this is going on he was writing me emails as to how much he missed me. I rationalize this is just one sick puppy that collects women more so then actually cares for and respects them. Maybe it's the attention, or the 'status?' of having so many ladies still wanting your affections. I don't know. I think if you spread yourself that thin, you will only wind up in shallow situations. I would ask myself why, why would someone (aside from our break) do this. The answer is that there is just no answer. It is not my place to impose my idea of morality onto someone else, especially someone who chose to leave in pursuit of other interests. Like I said you can't get into their headspace and it's best to know you did the best you could do and leave your heart open for the next person. Sometimes you just have to shake your head and walk away. Eventually, you will be thankful that you did not settle for less then you deserve. If I were you I would just leave it alone and move on. Leave her be for a while, in this life and the virtual one. Yeah, I guess I really didn't expect anyone to have a real answer. I mean, what can you really say about something like that. Nothing really. It just doesn't make any sense is what bugs me I guess, and I like to have answers for things, even if it's not the answer I'm looking for, I'd rather know, for some reason it helps. On the leave her be comment, I haven't contacted her in almost a month, and I don't plan to ever again, so I'm doing good on that part. I just owe her a little money but I can have someone deliver that for me. You live and learn, and it's all you can do.
Guest Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 That's pretty weird dude, I don't know what to tell you. What I do know is that everything will work out for the best. Hang in there
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