allina Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 There has been talk of it for a while now since we pretty much live together already, but on Friday me and bf decided that we are ready and want to move in together. I'm leaving my little downtown apartment and we're both going to be living in his much larger 2 bdr place. I told my mom last night she took it way better than I thought she would, she isn't 100% thrilled but she's supportive, my dad is in China and has no idea. My bf just told his dad on the phone, his dad is happy for us and said he considered me the dil. I can't believe we're doing it! I'm super excited, we've gone through a lot of discussion in working out all the details and we're on the same page. If anyone has any words of wisdom for me when it comes to shacking up, I'd love to hear it
daisydo Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 There has been talk of it for a while now since we pretty much live together already, but on Friday me and bf decided that we are ready and want to move in together. I'm leaving my little downtown apartment and we're both going to be living in his much larger 2 bdr place. I told my mom last night she took it way better than I thought she would, she isn't 100% thrilled but she's supportive, my dad is in China and has no idea. My bf just told his dad on the phone, his dad is happy for us and said he considered me the dil. I can't believe we're doing it! I'm super excited, we've gone through a lot of discussion in working out all the details and we're on the same page. If anyone has any words of wisdom for me when it comes to shacking up, I'd love to hear it Let him have his own space and his own time. Let yourself have your own space and your own time. Just because you live together doesn't mean you have to spend every waking moment with him. If he is out of the apartment - avoid calling him unless it is something important. This is the one that really got me in a bind. Trust is key.
Author allina Posted January 21, 2007 Author Posted January 21, 2007 Let him have his own space and his own time. Let yourself have your own space and your own time. Just because you live together doesn't mean you have to spend every waking moment with him. If he is out of the apartment - avoid calling him unless it is something important. This is the one that really got me in a bind. Trust is key. Thanks, I agree with that so much, I've seen this be the downfall of several couples. Thankfully we're both pretty mellow about this sort of thing, we're not that "where have you been?!?" type of couple.
blind_otter Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 I echo the above senitments. Make sure to keep your own space sacred and spend time apart as well as together. And figure out who does what chores. for example, I do laundry and my SO does dishes because I hated dishes and he hates laundry.
Author allina Posted January 21, 2007 Author Posted January 21, 2007 I echo the above senitments. Make sure to keep your own space sacred and spend time apart as well as together. And figure out who does what chores. for example, I do laundry and my SO does dishes because I hated dishes and he hates laundry. My bf said to me last night "you're not doing the laundry, you always lose my socks" Though I would prefer laundry over dishes Time apart won't be an issue since I work and am finishing up school and he works full time, we also both have friends we see, sometimes seperate so I'm not worried about this. The chore thing I think may need a bit more discussion.
Pyro Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 Congats on taking the next step. I would give you advice, but you will probably start getting a headache from reading the same advice over and over. I was going to say the same thing as everyone else.
Author allina Posted January 21, 2007 Author Posted January 21, 2007 Congats on taking the next step. I would give you advice, but you will probably start getting a headache from reading the same advice over and over. I was going to say the same thing as everyone else. Thank you Rid I think the above is true for couples in general, not just ones living together. I'm funny like that, there are several things that make me say "I never want to be THAT couple"
IpAncA Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 Word of advice, try not to say you do this and I'll do this only.
Author allina Posted January 21, 2007 Author Posted January 21, 2007 Word of advice, try not to say you do this and I'll do this only. As in, chore wise? Sorry, I'm not sure I understand.
IpAncA Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 As in, chore wise? Sorry, I'm not sure I understand. O you'll find out. Trust me. You can't tell him to always wash the dishes or that you will always do something else. I could just see asking my H to always do the dishes lol!!! What a joke. But thats my experience. Others I'm sure have a different opinion and you'll be fine. Just don't one side everything.
Author allina Posted January 22, 2007 Author Posted January 22, 2007 O you'll find out. Trust me. You can't tell him to always wash the dishes or that you will always do something else. I could just see asking my H to always do the dishes lol!!! What a joke. But thats my experience. Others I'm sure have a different opinion and you'll be fine. Just don't one side everything. Do you mean like having set "rules" for who is responsible for what? Since we pretty much live together now, we help out around each apartment as needed, so i hope we can work that system out once we share just one place.
johan Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 I say go for it. With no reservations. People would advise caution, but I think that could just make you paranoid. You'll soon figure out what it takes to be together as housemates. I moved in with a girl once, and it was really fun. If you're good-natured and patient, it should go smoothly. Don't overthink it.
IpAncA Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 Do you mean like having set "rules" for who is responsible for what? Since we pretty much live together now, we help out around each apartment as needed, so i hope we can work that system out once we share just one place. Your starting to question yourself now. Just let it go and like Johan said, you'll soon figure it out what it takes to be together as housemates.
Author allina Posted January 23, 2007 Author Posted January 23, 2007 Your starting to question yourself now. Just let it go and like Johan said, you'll soon figure it out what it takes to be together as housemates. No, I'm not questioning the decision at all, I couldn't be happier, I was honestly unsure about what you were saying.
Touche Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 I agree with the others. The only thing I would add is this: Don't take each other for granted. After the novelty of the whole thing wears off that'[s easy to do. Continue to do nice things for each other.
Author allina Posted January 23, 2007 Author Posted January 23, 2007 well there goes the neighbourhood The neighborhood I'm moving to is a bit nicer than my current one
Guest Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 DAMN. HOW DID U TELL HIM ABOUT THIS? i was planning on buying a new bed [been sleeping on a crappy one fer years] but if i knew my babe was moving in - i would rather sleep in the bed she owns - its a great bed, and she has great furniture - stuff that matters to her...and i would what her to FINALLY be in a home with me where she DOESN'T HAVE TO ASK about painting the cabinet white - she can just DOOOOOOOOOOOOOO it and i'll paint too! sigh,,,,stories like this are nice...i wish you all the best
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