hugznkisses21 Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 im not freaking out or paranoid just curious if this means anything.... My bf and i were just chatting - hanging out n talking about various things and he said that when he was dating his ex when he was 19 or so the first time that he did kiss another girl while he was with her (whom he was with for 3 years when then went out later in their twenties) I was a bit shocked - just because that would betray my trust i think...does it mean anything - he says he was young - and he is different now...i believe him but does that mean he could do that to me? Im not upset or scared just curious what u guys think
TheDC Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 Well I think you're damned either way. How would you feel if you found out through someone else and he didn't tell you? Could be that he's just trying to come clean with you and let you know that he isn't the same person. Perhaps he wants to be the one to tell you and not let you find out from someone else.
Author hugznkisses21 Posted January 21, 2007 Author Posted January 21, 2007 it was about 7 or so years ago - before i ever knew him He said that he wouldnt do that type of thing again but he did do it once - i dont want that to happen to me ya know?
sb129 Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 Whatever happened before isn't necessarily an indication of how your relationship will go. Innocent until proven guilty right? I think you should take his honesty as a positive sign he doesn't want to keep anything from you.
sb129 Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 Also, some advice. Now that he is told you, accept it, and draw a line under it. DO NOT use it against him in future arguments, or "assume" he will do it to you. If you do, and have the attitude of "he's done it before, he might do it to me" your relationship will suffer badly. And a kiss isn't the end of the world! Think how much worse it could have been- and look at what some of the other LSers have to put up with. You have nothing to worry about.
magichands Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 Also, some advice. Now that he is told you, accept it, and draw a line under it. DO NOT use it against him in future arguments, or "assume" he will do it to you. If you do, and have the attitude of "he's done it before, he might do it to me" your relationship will suffer badly. Great advice! Good one, sb129. And a kiss isn't the end of the world! Think how much worse it could have been- and look at what some of the other LSers have to put up with. You have nothing to worry about. Ask him if he used his tongue. That's the kicker.
whichwayisup Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 What's more important is how he is now with you. How he treats you and what your relationship with him is. The past is the past, so leave it there - UNLESS he gives you something to worry about in the future...
Author hugznkisses21 Posted January 21, 2007 Author Posted January 21, 2007 thanks Guys! you have all offered me great advice I guess i heard someone say once a cheater always a cheater and i was wondering if this would be one of those red flags that i should watch out for But you guys aee right Thanks!
magichands Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 once a cheater always a cheater No. People change. Some people think they are lesbians, and then they realise that penises are cool. And not just lesbians. Sometimes anal sex gets old.
sb129 Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 No. People change. Some people think they are lesbians, and then they realise that penises are cool. And not just lesbians. Sometimes anal sex gets old. :laugh:
Author hugznkisses21 Posted January 21, 2007 Author Posted January 21, 2007 hahaha very interesting!! I would be very heart broken if i found out my bf kissed another girl not to mention my trust would be betrayed
magichands Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 I would be very heart broken if i found out my bf kissed another girl not to mention my trust would be betrayed Maybe he was a spy, and it was in the national interest. Like, a duty thing, if you will.
sb129 Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 hahaha very interesting!! I would be very heart broken if i found out my bf kissed another girl not to mention my trust would be betrayed Chill out woman. He isn't going to. Best get the subject out of your head before it takes seed.
magichands Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 Best get the subject out of your head before it takes seed. I agree. The last thing you need is irrational thoughts sprouting in your head. You're making me hungry.
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