bones Posted January 31, 2007 Posted January 31, 2007 Your question is a good one. I think it all depends upon the players involved. A friendship between a man and a woman can be rewarding and insightful for both. It does present challenges. Why do you ask and what are your true feelings for your friend? Do you want to end the friendship because you have feelings that go beyond friendship? Or do you sense the other person's feelings have grown beyond the boundries you are comfortable with? A person can never have too many friends and if this person is truely special to you, then you owe it to yourself and your friend to be point blank honest about how you feel and want you want. You can manage the friendship from there. Holding back isn't going to be productive for you or the friend. If you are really good friends-- you'll work through the feelings and settle on how to move forward without damaging the relationship. Life changes and you never know when you will want to and be able to move things to the next level. If fate brought you together, stay together on good terms. Obviously it is meant to be and all will sort out in the future. Gool luck and post a response!
Raleuse Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 ... If you are really good friends-- you'll work through the feelings and settle on how to move forward without damaging the relationship. Life changes and you never know when you will want to and be able to move things to the next level. If fate brought you together, stay together on good terms. Obviously it is meant to be and all will sort out in the future. Gool luck and post a response! Bones, this is beautifully written. I wish life - and human emotions - were that simple tho.
bones Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Raleuse - you are so right. Nothing is simple when it comes to human emotions and relationships. Love is the source of the greatest joy and most profound sorrow. I wish there was a switch I could use to turn off my feelings.
georgejungle Posted February 2, 2007 Posted February 2, 2007 Sure, you CAN be friends with a girl without anything happening, but it's not like there's never any thoughts or feelings going on in each guy's/girl's brain about each other...the "What if we took it further" thoughts. Not in every friendship, but in a lot. I mean let's be honest... I'm a guy, and sure in the past, i've thought about a few of my female friends and thought they are either very attractive or I wonder what we'd be like as a couple, but if we're good friends, you keep it at that. All i'm saying is, it IS possible for a guy and a girl to Just Be Friends, but it's hard for some people, they just have to explore the "what if?" a lot of the time.
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