Star Gazer Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 Ok, so I've narrowed down my 3 guys to 2 simply by one dude's flirting style. He was complimentary, charming, and then all of a sudden he's suggesting I'm a "freak in the sheets" and that he wants to help me unleash my "wild vixen side." WTF?! I did and said NOTHING to him to suggest that I was interested in sex or some sort of fling. I'm a serious relationship kind of girl. In fact, I flat out told him that he ain't gonna get it, that "the right guy" has got to have patience, and his response was something like "well, I don't have a lot of patience and I won't wait long." Dude. WTF?
IpAncA Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 What makes guys think they can get "sexual" when flirting? Probably because they've been doing it for years and it gets them the results they seek. There on the horny flirt sexual turnpike.
Author Star Gazer Posted January 20, 2007 Author Posted January 20, 2007 I BARELY know this guy, and he's already suggesting that he give me a ride. Not a car ride, but a RIIIIIIDDDDDE. I think it's so disrespectful to speak to a girl you barely know like that. You're basically telling her you think she has "easy" written on her forehead.
westernxer Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 You're basically telling her you think she has "easy" written on her forehead. It's an effective way to screen the ones who are easy from the ones who aren't.
Poboy Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 What makes guys think they can get "sexual" when flirting? cause it works nowdays
Author Star Gazer Posted January 20, 2007 Author Posted January 20, 2007 It's an effective way to screen the ones who are easy from the ones who aren't. How so? See, my concern is that I don't want to come across as a prude, but a guy's gotta put in some time and effort to get into my precious panties!!!
Green Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 I dont fully understand whats going on. Are u trying to meet guys to date online? If I was trying to date you online and I saw an oportunity to say something sexual like if we were on aim and we were talking and u said I'm going to go take a shower. I might throw something out there like "dont tease me like that" or "what I wouldnt give to watch" would that autimaticaly make me a perve? What if I apologized after u showed u were offended would u accept such an apology? I think when a guy says something sexual when flirting he does it to spice things up thats atleast why I would do it not to make the girl feel dirty or angry of coarse and if she got offended I would either say excuse me or just move on.
2sunny Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 it's the nature of the beast, so to speak.... you need to come up with a reply that will have him understand your position...
Author Star Gazer Posted January 20, 2007 Author Posted January 20, 2007 I dont fully understand whats going on. Are u trying to meet guys to date online? If I was trying to date you online and I saw an oportunity to say something sexual like if we were on aim and we were talking and u said I'm going to go take a shower. I might throw something out there like "dont tease me like that" or "what I wouldnt give to watch" would that autimaticaly make me a perve? What if I apologized after u showed u were offended would u accept such an apology? I think when a guy says something sexual when flirting he does it to spice things up thats atleast why I would do it not to make the girl feel dirty or angry of coarse and if she got offended I would either say excuse me or just move on. First, nope, not trying to meet guys online. I'm talking about real-life-breathing guys that I KNOW. These comments come in various forms though - in person, on the phone, via text, email, whatever... from guys I truly barely know (either just recently met or have been on one date or something). Comments like the one you suggested ARE WAY TOO sexual coming from someone I don't know well. If I were already engaged in a relationship with him when he'd say that, then it would be cute and a fun form of foreplay. But that's just it - that sort of comment when flirting with someone you don't know IS FOREPLAY, and it's just not appropriate when you're just getting to know someone, IMO. In saying that, you're telling her you're looking for sex and think she's willing to give it up - you're telling her she's easy. Not good, not good at all if you're interested in a relationship. Sure, some guys might think it's "testing the boundaries," but if he's testing in this manner, he's already crossed the line with me. You just can't unring the bell.
Green Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 I dont know what to say I'll be in NYC tonight testing my boundries. But when chatting up a girl I dont know to well I always want to throw a few sexual things in if I can but I try to do it in a way that comes off inocent
pricillia Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 First, nope, not trying to meet guys online. I'm talking about real-life-breathing guys that I KNOW. These comments come in various forms though - in person, on the phone, via text, email, whatever... from guys I truly barely know (either just recently met or have been on one date or something). Comments like the one you suggested ARE WAY TOO sexual coming from someone I don't know well. If I were already engaged in a relationship with him when he'd say that, then it would be cute and a fun form of foreplay. But that's just it - that sort of comment when flirting with someone you don't know IS FOREPLAY, and it's just not appropriate when you're just getting to know someone, IMO. In saying that, you're telling her you're looking for sex and think she's willing to give it up - you're telling her she's easy. Not good, not good at all if you're interested in a relationship. Sure, some guys might think it's "testing the boundaries," but if he's testing in this manner, he's already crossed the line with me. You just can't unring the bell. I don't think that you should be horrified, some men will do this no matter what with whom ever. Maybe you seem like a goody goody to him and that turns him on... who knows..just ignore him if it bothers you, and don't let him get a reaction out of you.
pricillia Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 Oh, and if he tells you again that he wants to help you unleash your wild side, then just tell him that he is a bad boy and you are going to put him in the dog house. LOL just kidding then that will really get him stirred and you will never get rid of him. again just ignore him.
2sunny Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 Oh, and if he tells you again that he wants to help you unleash your wild side, then just tell him that he is a bad boy and you are going to put him in the dog house. LOL just kidding then that will really get him stirred and you will never get rid of him. again just ignore him. or you could tell him he's a bad boy and needs a good spanking! :lmao:
pricillia Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 or you could tell him he's a bad boy and needs a good spanking! :lmao: yeah, that's what I'm talking bout:lmao:
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