Guest Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 Ok I have been married for almost 20 years, but now seperated and heading towards divorce. He cheated on me and its something I can't get beyond and he doesn't seem to want to repair either, so heres my question. There is this fella, a co-woker of mine who is really a complete jacka** and a know it all. He says it was my fault my husband cheated. When I asked him why felt this way, he says, I should have seen signs of what kind of person he was before I ever married him, and the signs were there I just didn't look hard enough or notice. WTF is this man talking about? So I asked him, exactly what signs was I supposed to be looking out for? he then says, to many to tell you right now. WTF? This is a man who doesn't even know my husband, and never even knew me until he started working at my place of employment about 2 years ago. Now, if you are dating someone who abuses you, cheating on you while dating etc, then I might can understand these "signs" he is talking about, but my husband didn't do any of that, nor did he display any type of behavior that would have made me think otherwise while we were dating. This co-worker is big into the "science" of male and female roles and sexuality. He also says men marry only women they can afford? So according to him, if a man cheats, reguardless if you have be married 1 year or 50 years, its the womans fault because she married him to begin with and should have seen the "signs." Your thoughts?
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