Guest Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 I would really appreciate some advice from Loveshack Forum about how to deal with this situation. Whenever we go out together, my husband asks me to wear sexy clothes. He says that he loves to see me do a bit of what he calls "amateur exposure", and wants to see other guys "hitting on me." (Meaning strangers. The sexy look is not for going out with our friends.) I am 45, in fairly good shape, well groomed, and I have been told that I look younger than my age. I do try hard to please him, but I just don't feel comfortable with the "amateur exposure" he wants. Whatever I wear is not short enough, not enough cleavage showing, or the heels are too low. (4 inches is too low!) He has told me that I look "too old" in an outfit, or that a soft, clingy fabric was the "type worn by middle-aged women". If I stand up to him and tell him that I like what I am wearing, he just says that I should be trying harder to please him. When he sees a sexily dressed woman with a guy, he will say to me , "Look, she is doing it to please him." I end up feeling like a frump. Now he is pressuring me to sit in a bar, in a short skirt and no panties. So-and-so's wife/girlfriend did it, so why can't I? This is just too creepy for me. All this from my husband who rarely buys any new clothes, and loves the porn sites where guys post photos of their wives. Please help!
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