freakygal78 Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 OK, so as a lark, I rejoined a long-time dating site I had been on and off on for about 5 odd years. I thought meeting some new (single) guys might be fun for coffee dates and company strictly at the moment. And whilst I've had a some contact from some real young hotties, I also thought that I would see if there are ppl on there who are putting in code or even rather bluntly that they are married and seeking an EMR. Wowee! I didn't expect to see the plethora of dissatisfied men on there with hidden photos or some even blatantly displaying them. To be honest, I don't know who sounds saddest, the desperate singles on there overenthusiastically promoting themselves i.e. I love walks on a sunset beach, fine wines and cheese, jetskiing OR the MM jerks saying 'I just am looking for that missing 'spark', being taken for granted and need someone for some intimacy, want to spice things up a bit' - it all screams 'dodgy' to me! How's about drag your sorry cake-eating ass out of that r'ship, pay alimony like a respectable divorcee would and find someone who you're NOT going to cage up in your tangled web - I have to say that whichever situation you get caught up with MM in your life in, this would be one of the most deceptive and worst ways. I guess to look at it another way....you attract what you look for!
Guest Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 babe if u are serious about the things u have said over the last few days [months] but the last few have been amazing i want you WANT you to make a decision about something - i need to know when you WILL step back out into the light with me and tell me what U WANT AND SEE happening in the short term because i believe u and i can handle this now. and i want to be able to plab ahead - i am moving in 3 weeks and i hope u agree that its time to take that step but i do recognize that we now have a huge elephant in the way forward because for us to do anything u need to remove all yer reports there is absolutely nothing we can do until that is cleared up and i told u i would support u as u do that - go intogether and would u know who that guy was [jim jones] that called me? because we can talk forever here but until those things are removed we can never be anything more than this here right now - is that what u want? please think about that ok i'm gonna go and do some surfing and think about what sort of things are possible and not hugs and kisses ghjm
Seen_It_All Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 Selfish a*ssholes like these married guys are the biggest jokes on planet earth. These morons actually think that women are just going to line up at their doors simply because they want a 'spark' in their lives - poor, deprived creatures that they ARE. While their wives are working a full time job, taking care of their kids, doing their laundry and cooking their meals, these collassal a*ssholes are out looking for someone to screw. Gosh, how can ANYONE turn down a prize like THAT? These imbeciles honestly think the internet is one big womanly candy store for them. They think all they have to do is place an ad and the women will line up for miles. Stupid, pathetic losers, each and every one of them. They want a spark? Their wives out to set their loser asses on fire.
Author freakygal78 Posted January 21, 2007 Author Posted January 21, 2007 I have not had such a hearty laugh for a while! LOL @ wife setting their @sses on fire! Haha! I wonder how many takers they get? I really wasn't interested in pursuing these MM btw, just after my experience last year, I was curious I guess if they are brazen enough to advertise on a dating site. Sure enough they are! One even posted his (rather unsavoury) picture. Yes, it seems in THIS scenario....it's not always an intimate r'ship they're after than an intimate 'time' every so often. I only feel sadness for their wives Because at least if they knew, they could leave the putz there like yesterday's underwear...
Yamaha Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 The reason MM are so blatant is because from experience they feel they have nothing to lose. They are in the position of already having someone but wouldn't mind some fun if the women is up for it. Many women who are only looking for some fun without the relationship are game for this kind of man. If you want to place blame you should look at your fellow sisters who seem content in hooking up with a MM as well.
Blue Phoenix Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 --"To be honest, I don't know who sounds saddest, the desperate singles on there overenthusiastically promoting themselves"-- Thats a bit harsh no? just because some ones looking for a relashionship dosent make them desperate. Granted some of them do seam to try a bit to hard. But I guess thats just how they get there personality across. Any ways I agree with the last poster. while yea it is anoying the amount of marryed guys on line and even more the fact that most of the time they lie about being marryed. It dose go bouth ways there are just as maney women doing the same thing. So ya realy cant go bashing just the men to much takes 2 to tango..
Arabess Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 If ONLY they were really as good in bed as they promised online....you could overlook the lies. But they aren't.
Author freakygal78 Posted January 22, 2007 Author Posted January 22, 2007 OK for one......I am a single woman....even though I have had a past with a MM at work with an EA, if I wanted a bit of no strings attached fun, I'd rather go with a sexy single sort than actively get into some regular rumpy pumpy seshes with a MM who advertises his desire for his god given right of frequent sexual activity. Let me ask you if a MW did the same thing - would you call her a sl*t or a Nympho? But no - men who have 'nothing to lose' as you put it Yamaha (oh, except a wife, kids, job, respectability in the community etc.) are quite happy to advertise for slim, dazzling, charming, enchanting, alluring women with a(n extraneous?) personality to boot! It seems ludicrous to me. I am tempted to put an ad up there AS a MW as a social experiment just to see the response I would get i.e. Just looking for on the side fun.....no emotional connection wanted - must be young, fit, intelligent and full of stamina....would that make men feel like a piece of meat? Maybe they would in fact jump at the chance? Who is to know? And as for the overenthusiastic singles, I was not saying all were this way or else I would be bagging myself now wouldn't I? It's just the ones who profess to mountain climb and jet-ski every other day, walk on beaches at sunset whilst simultaneously having wine and cheeses and reading The Da Vinci Code while downloading the latest R'N'B onto their iPod that get me. And they're all gorgeous and sexy with blonde hair and blue eyes, or are male models with no flaws lol. I am rather cynical after having met my fair share of them otherwise I'd see it fit to shut my big yap! As for the MM bragging about being so good in bed, the way I see it is, if wifey ain't dancin' on their pole, there's prolly good reason
frannie Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 Hmm there are plenty of married women on these sites too. Or there are on the 'philanderers' sites, maybe not the dating sites, I've never looked. My opinion is, be grateful that a MM is advertising exactly what he is: a married man looking for a bit of fun on the side. That way, you get what you expect. At least their being honest about it.
Blue Phoenix Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 --"It's just the ones who profess to mountain climb and jet-ski every other day, walk on beaches at sunset whilst simultaneously having wine and cheeses and reading The Da Vinci Code while downloading the latest R'N'B onto their iPod that get me"-- Lmao ok I got ya now I know the ones your talking about but hey at least a guy like that can multi task no?? lol... --"My opinion is, be grateful that a MM is advertising exactly what he is: a married man looking for a bit of fun on the side. That way, you get what you expect. At least their being honest about it"-- Well yes and no on that one yes its good hes being honest with the rest of the world. But just think how greatfull would you be if you were his wife??
Author freakygal78 Posted January 22, 2007 Author Posted January 22, 2007 Yeah well the next 45yo male I choose to date with no picture on his pf may or may not be married....but hey these MM - god bless 'em - they're shining beacons of morality! For their honesty - my hat off to them (but not much else!) lol. I must concede however, it's a good way to let people know to steer away from you at least if you AREN'T interested in something like that. BTW, you often don't know if they single guy you're meeting has a gf or not either....?
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