norajane Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 No one can say what a situation, a ring, means to anyone... whether they look at it, notice it, feel anything about it. I think this is so much supposition. Yes, that's exactly what it is, supposition. I wasn' talking about my MM. I know why my MM thought back then - he said his ring made him sad and angry. I was asking the question in general, saying I wondered what MM think, whether they get snapped into reality for a moment by seeing the ring. That's all.
Curmudgeon Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 Hmm... well, unless it's your wife typing, and then you'd be a WS... oh... so many things to aspire to Nope! Not my wife. It's actually me and I aspire to be nothing more nor less than I am right now. Having been a betrayed spouse (with the ex, not my wife) the kind of married man I am now is the kind of married man I'll always be so long as I'm married.
erika2610 Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 But ring or no ring... he was still married. Well no kidding. But I still didn't want to look at the ring while I was with him. It bothered me. He didn't wear it for the longest time, why start wearing it when you're with me? I don't know.. it's hard for me to explain how I felt about it at the time.
pricillia Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 Well no kidding. But I still didn't want to look at the ring while I was with him. It bothered me. He didn't wear it for the longest time, why start wearing it when you're with me? I don't know.. it's hard for me to explain how I felt about it at the time. Because he wanted to send a strong message to you that he was married, or he knew it bothered you and it had power over your emotions
norajane Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 Because he wanted to send a strong message to you that he was married, or he knew it bothered you and it had power over your emotions The ring is a powerful symbol in our society
pricillia Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 The ring is a powerful symbol in our society and he knew it bothered her, he was trying to tell her something without actually putting it into words..
freakygal78 Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 On an aside from the ring, You OW sound like you have more active sex lives than me, newly physically apart from ex-MM and post break-up from who I realise was a rebound SG now...lol. How do I get back in the saddle as such....? With someone appropriate? Seems I've lost the zest for even looking anymore...
sadbuttrue Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 my MM always has his ring on, i have never seen it off. it does bother me when i see it. it is always a reminder. i hate holding his hand and feeling it. it seems hipocritical? for him to wear that and have sex with me. of course any reminder of the W is hurtful to me, especially when we are together and he is saying all the wonderful things to me that he should only say to his W. and freakygal, i have never had a more satisfying sex life as i do now with MM. i dont know what to tell you to help you
Author Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted January 22, 2007 Author Posted January 22, 2007 Freakygal - wear sexy underwear - not for a man, but underwear that makes YOU feel sexy. It's a tiny trick I did when I broke up with ex-bf and was feeling a bit low. Plus, i never had to worry about getting run over by a bus
yousaveme Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 My MM never worn one. And actually got rid of it recently. Didnt and does mean anything to him.
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