polywog Posted January 19, 2007 Posted January 19, 2007 Hi again LSers, In my earlier posts I have explained that my SO broke up with me a few weeks ago. Because it is difficult to find a place her right now that I can afford, I am living in the (his) house. He is understanding of this and says that it is not a problem for him to stay here as long as I need to. My plan has been to get on with my life, which I am doing despite all the heartbreak, etc., and i have a busy life with lots to do. What I am posting about is that I have been doing 180, but it has really been NC on his part. He has not sought me out at all, tho we have bumped into each other a few times very briefly, both in town and here at the house (once). He is doing great at NC, tho I don't even think he knows what this is. I am the dumped, and I am doing this 180/NC stuff to get my life on track and it is, of course, hard. To me his behavior feels hostile. He has been spending most nights away (maybe there is someone else, but when we broke up he said there wasn't and I believe him). The only room he uses that we share is the bathroom, otherwise he hangs out in his basement/den if he is here. Another factor making me really sensitive about this is that the last time we had a "Talk", over a week ago I told him that I felt that I was entitled to financial help from him. We are not legally married, but I have been "the wife" (cooking, cleaning, etc etc). My well-meaning friends all told me I needed to have this talk with him. He was upset by this, and said that I have had "free ride" and he doesn't feel he owes me anything. I am not the type of person who keeps tabs, and the truth is that he has always been generous to me, so I felt bad after I brought it up, but did not tell him this. Anyhow, I am thinking that he is stewing over this and I keep wanted to break this NC to find that out. What do all you wise ones say?
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