Salicious Crumb Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 We were having sex and he suddenly had a heartattack. They just took him away in the ambulance. He is only 44. Is this my fault? I feel so bad. No, he probably had a love affair with prime rib and ham that caused it. He needs to eat more chicken and fish.
MOMMIE Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 I just have to ask...what happened when....you know...did he just pass out or did he say "hey get up i'm having a heart attack"??? 44 is not old at all; The guy I see is 50, and he breaths really really really hard during our times together, and sometimes I'll think "damn, is he okay or should we stop"....Were there any signs before hand???....well, I'm glad he's okay....
My Fair Katie Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 His Mom ended up finding out because I made him call her but she was so mad at me for not calling her the minute it happened and said if anything happens to my son and your present, you call me understood. I said "Yes Mrs. M***." Glad to hear he's on the up and up, but WOW, you all need to have a chat. His mom is mad at YOU? No, she can be mad at HIM. It was HIS decision not to have her there. He is a 44 year old man and his girlfriend (or even if you were a fiance or wife) doesn't get to trump his decision. Sorry. Sick person always chooses. Maybe when he's better she should ask her SON why he didn't want her there. I would've just said, "I'm sorry Mrs. M, I was merely respecting your son's decisions, perhaps you should chat with him when he's feeling better." LOL, if My Fair Husband's mom had said that to me, heart attack or no, he'd be p1ssed and telling the doctors he wanted her out of his room. We have a tenuous relationship though. Why would he not want his family there? He told me he didnt get along with anyone. Which was kind of strange you could feel the love in that room last night. Always defer to your boyfriend on this. Love or not, he may not get along with them. If I were in the hospital I would NOT want my family of origin there no matter how nice they are. I'd only want My Fair Husband, and he would respect that. Anywho, glad he's doing better.
magichands Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 I had a co-worker have a heart attack at age 40, it was actually the day before his 40th to be exact so age has nothing to do with it. You try turning 40. Scary. Glad to hear he's on the up and up, but WOW, you all need to have a chat. His mom is mad at YOU? No, she can be mad at HIM. It was HIS decision not to have her there. Totally.
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted January 22, 2007 Author Posted January 22, 2007 Wow Im surprised at that because I have always had the utmost respect for the parents of my friends and SO's. I guess your right though because I did not want to go against his wishes out of my love and respect for him and I didnt. But what if say he would have died or something? I would have hated myself for not informing her. A catch 22 for sure huh? He is having surgery this morning so Im off to the hospital now. This is so exhausting Im there all day and night til midnight come home and sleep maybe three hours and Im back there again. I cant wait til this is all over with and hes all better. His mom is having a serious operation today too. Thanks for all your advice I am grateful.
littlekitty Posted January 22, 2007 Posted January 22, 2007 I'm glad to hear he's doing well. My best friend wasn't so lucky, her Fiance died of a heart attack during sex. Make sure he follows the doctor's orders 100% when he comes out. And be gentle with him for a bit ok?!
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted January 24, 2007 Author Posted January 24, 2007 Well Bad news you guys. After they went in with the dye the found one of his arteries completely clogged and for a long length. So they are doing bypass surgery tomorrow morning. Im so scared for him. I came home to take a shower and grab some clothes figured Ill be there for a few days. He is so scared and I am being strong infront of him. But Im scared for real. Please pray for him his name is mel. Thank you
guin_girl Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 Stay strong 909, and let us know how you are doing if you get a chance. I'll add him to my prayer list.
PWSX3 Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 Well Bad news you guys. After they went in with the dye the found one of his arteries completely clogged and for a long length. So they are doing bypass surgery tomorrow morning. Im so scared for him. I came home to take a shower and grab some clothes figured Ill be there for a few days. He is so scared and I am being strong infront of him. But Im scared for real. Please pray for him his name is mel. Thank you Look at this as a positve, him having the heart attack was just his warning light going off. (like your oil light in your car:D) If that didn't happen they wouldn't have found the clogged artery and maybe next week he could have died. His heart attack happened for a reason and he is alive because of it. I will keep him in my thoughts and I wish him the best.... Sounds to me like he has a very supportive GF by his side.
littlekitty Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 Stay strong for him. And as the other posters said, at least they now know about the problem and can sort it out. It's a positive in a strange way!
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted January 24, 2007 Author Posted January 24, 2007 Yeah I am trying to. One thing for sure it has brought me closer to him and his family. His family really think I a wonderful person? But yesterday after I showered I returned to find a girl laying in bed with him. And his son's were very upset because this girl is horrid. And they never did like her. She's and EX. His son's asked him to have her leave and he said no. The reason they wanted her to go was because she want good to him and caused problems for the family. I dont know I wasnt there. But she said she wouldnt leave and I thought that was rude to do to his sons. They made a scene which I wasnt involved. She left and took his wallet and left her jacket. M was mad at me because his son's didnt want her there. Go figure. I was crushed to say the least. I didnt want to upset him so I just asked him what was going on and he said shes staying here with me tonight. And so are you. I was like huh? well as we sat there she was pawing all ove him and it was making me so mad. I left in tears. I just sick over this and dont know if I should go back. His sister called me late last night and talked to me for hours. She was so upset that he treated me like that when I was there with him around the clock. She apologized and told me she thought I should still come back this morning and I am. We shall see what happens He is going to be fine.
Citizen Erased Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 Any man who would treat you with such disrespect in front of his own family is not worthy of your time, heart attack or no heart attack. I literally couldn't believe it when I read that.
mental_traveller Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 We were having sex and he suddenly had a heartattack. They just took him away in the ambulance. He is only 44. Is this my fault? I feel so bad. Of course it's not your fault! Heart attacks are very common in the west, it's our diet & genetics at fault, nothing to do with you. Well, sorry to hear the bad news, but he is alive so cheer up And no, he isn't going to be mad at you, I know you must be stressed & worried now, but try to stay calm. Don't jump to conclusions and just listen to what he has to say. If you are worried, tell him and let him reassure you. He'll probably be thinking you are fussing too much and just calm you down, don't worry.
Art_Critic Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 Any man who would treat you with such disrespect in front of his own family is not worthy of your time, heart attack or no heart attack. I literally couldn't believe it when I read that. I agree with coco.. I would stop visiting him and end the relationship.. What a disrespectful ass... His sister is just trying to make things right.. Well they shouldn't be made right because he chose an ex over you to comfort him at the hospital.. If you listen to her all that will happen is he will treat you like crap later on..
PussInHeels Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 The surgery should be ok...I've seen bypasses where 3 or 4 arteries were clogged and the surgeries were fine. The post-op....eh, well that depends on the person, but with diet and checking in with a cardiologist, he probably has a good chance (exercise too, but obviously not until later). What you should be concerned about is the real nature of your relationship. Here you are, freaking out about his condition, running to and fro, and he's getting cozy with his ex in the hospital bed, in front of you and his family? He also appears to be short-tempered with you. While the hospital tends not to bring out the best in people, his behavior should be a little suspect. I'm sure you must love him, and hope everything goes well. But if you find yourself being angry and hurt and disrespected the majority of the time, you really shouldn't settle for that.
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted January 24, 2007 Author Posted January 24, 2007 Well I got to the hosp[ital at 4:00 am. Trying to beat everyone there to have sme alone time with him. Only when I got there she was there in bed with him again. I almost fell over. I said hey sweetie how you feeling? Then I told her could you please excuse us I would like a word with him before I leave to work. She didnt move so he proceeded to get out of bed I said why are you getting up? He said cause you want to talk to me. I said well she should leave the room not you. And she got up and went into the patients Bathroom. I was trying to talk to him and he was an ass. I said look it M just tell me what you want and I will do it. Dont play with me be honest. He said I want to get this over with and come home with you to your house so you can take care of me. I said okay and where do I stand with you? He said quit acting stupid and childish you know that. I said I will win in the end just know that. He said I know that so quit tripping. I said okay can I pray with you? ANd he said yes and I just broke down and cried and cried. I was so confused and hurt. His son walked in and she had come out of the BR never actually left me with him in private. When his son seen her he walked out. And M said who was that I said M your son. He called him but he did come back so M went to find him I stayed in the room cause she followed. His son came in the room aand he looked like he was going to cry. And said My dad wants her here not you. I said should I leave? His son said no. But i started gathering all of his things to take home with me since he is coming here afterwards. And I took some down and came back up and his sister was there. She was SO MAD! I thought at me but she said not even. Wel to make things not uncomfortable for the family I chose to be the bigger one and left. It was hard so hard. But I know in the long run I will feel better about my choices. If I did what was running through my mind I would be in jail most likely. This is the most hurtful thing I have ever been through.
Art_Critic Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 Is this Dick really worth all this Drama ?.. The ex should not even be there... PERIOD..The man is a jerk and has no backbone.. why subject yourself to this ? Don't go back..
Art_Critic Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 But i started gathering all of his things to take home with me since he is coming here afterwards. What ?????? tell him to stay at his ex's house... Why do you think this kind of treatment is okay ?
PussInHeels Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 That guy is friggin lame, and he's using his heart attack and surgery to evoke sympathy and guilt from you so he can do whatever he wants. This is reprehensible and it is quite evident to even someone on an internet forum that he is manipulating you, controlling you, and is uncaring of your desires and emotions. Let the other women set him up in her house and "take care of him." He should be taking care of himself or he'll be back for another surgery. By the way doctors and nurses get annoyed when someone's all the time in the bed with the patient, cuddling and what-not. That person usually ends up in the way and it's a pain.
tinktronik Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 Woah , so after all of this you are actually going to bring him home and take care of him post surgery . He simply isn't going home with the "EX" because she won't take care of him . You are getting the very shortest end of this stick.
coco_milkshake Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 Wow what a jackass and that ex should not be there in the first place. Man I would have dragged her by her hair out of his bed lol. Man...I dont know how you put up with this, I would show him the door. If he prefers his ex to you let her look after him.
whichwayisup Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 And said My dad wants her here not you Hearing that (and it really pissed me off reading it too), I really wish you would have gone back into the room and said to him, "Seeing as you want her here and not me, she can take care of you when you're out the hospital. Goodbye." He has sons, he has her, he has family. Let them take care of him. Geez, what happens when he comes home to your place, and then she comes over, or he talks to her on the phone. WTF. And yes, he is playing with you, he's being an A-hole big time. Wash your hands of him and his crap, dump his ass NOW!!!
tinktronik Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 Hearing that (and it really pissed me off reading it too), I really wish you would have gone back into the room and said to him, "Seeing as you want her here and not me, she can take care of you when you're out the hospital. Goodbye." He has sons, he has her, he has family. Let them take care of him. Geez, what happens when he comes home to your place, and then she comes over, or he talks to her on the phone. WTF. And yes, he is playing with you, he's being an A-hole big time. Wash your hands of him and his crap, dump his ass NOW!!! Yeah. Thats about all to be said . Its okay to be upset or dump him reguardless of the fact that he is sick . Everyone has problems , it does not give them the right to be a complete jerk though.
Author ahsumgurl909 Posted January 24, 2007 Author Posted January 24, 2007 Well went and dropped off the roommate at work and headed back to the hospital. Walked in and seen the creature sitting in the corner mouth hung wide open snoring loudly and showing her one black tooth. I just kept walking to the immediate family part of the waiting area to be greeted by his sister, two sons, and even his exwife. With welcome arms and smiles. The ex wife wanted to go tell her something so badly. She truly liked me and wished me luck and said your gonna need it. We laughed and we just enjoying each others company. She walks into the ICU area and tells the lady she was his IF and wanted to know what was up with him. I found out what she asked when I went in after her. The nurse said well the girl that just left here claimed to be his family. No she is not his family in any way shape or form. His sister K is his IF and she is the one to be addressed in this manner. The nurse came out and told us he was out of the operating room and will be ready for two vistitors at a time. K wwent in first and told the nurse in charge of his care that there was a girl that the family didnt want in the icu area with him. They said we cant promise anything but will put her on the list of not allowed visitors. (This I didnt understand what if a person was in danger?) Anyway she creeped in while I was in there when someone else got buzzed in. And I went right to his room and told the nurse that she was the girl the family didnt want in there. They did nothing. Anyone know the rules of a hospital? I wish I did. His momther would have a fit if she knew that girl was there she did thousands of dollars of CC fraud on his dead fathers name. What kind of person would stick around in a situattion like this knowing they were not welcome there by the family? I would be so uncomfortable. Not her she just sticks around and acts likeshes gonna get somewhere.
Art_Critic Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 What kind of person would stick around in a situattion like this knowing they were not welcome there by the family? ... Why are you still going there ?
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