naiveme Posted January 19, 2007 Posted January 19, 2007 Hi there, I have a bit of a dilemma. Met up with this girl (we are both in mid 20s) 3 times since she contacted me on an online dating site. And we have also chatted online and texted for a month as well. Possibly meeting her again next week. Although have a little dilemma - I am looking to move to a new area (where she stays and works and also where I work) and am looking to get a flat but need someone to share with - cannot afford it on my own and also would like the social aspect of sharing with someone as long as I get on with them. She is staying in basic accomodation just a bedroom and shared facilities and has said that she needs her own space but again she cannot afford a place of her own. Now should I ask her if she would consider being flatmates or not? Although I am not sure whether she would like her own place and not really consider sharing with anybody. We are not dating at the moment but do get on well - well so I think anyway, and indications is that she gets on well with me too. Its possible a more serious relationship would develop but not sure on that. Would it work if we shared a place and then we found we liked each other more than friends would it create problems? And how would you react if someone asked you if you would consider sharing a flat with them when you had contacted them through an online dating site originally? The problem is that I want this own place soon, and would really be stretching myself if I took it on alone - thats if I could even afford it. But don't really want to go about trying to find someone else to share with At the moment she seems someone I would like to share a place with. Thanks if you can offer any advice.
ash519 Posted January 19, 2007 Posted January 19, 2007 Well- If you decide to ask her to share a TWO bedroom apartment then go for it. But I do recommend figuring out your feelings first because if she doesnt hold interest back...Awkward....and if you decide you dont like her romantically and she does...Awkward. I think your best bet is staying as only friends. Unless you both decide together before moving in you both want more together because keep in mind, if you live together (which is huge) and you dont date, you will have to deal with her bringing other dates home, maybe finding a bf and in her case vice versa.
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