Star Gazer Posted January 19, 2007 Posted January 19, 2007 I've recently met three different guys, all very different from one another and amazing in their own right. I'm interested in dating/getting to know each of them. The problem? They're all friends. Ideally, I'd like to at least go out on one date with each of them, see which one (or two, hehe) seem to fit best, then go on another date, etc. "Narrowing them down," so to speak...as I do with everyone else. I've casually dated 3 guys at once before, but not guys that even knew each other, let alone friends. How the he!! do I figure this one out??
johan Posted January 19, 2007 Posted January 19, 2007 If you had two guys to choose from, that would be a dilemma. But you have three, so that's a trilemma.
Lostgurl Posted January 19, 2007 Posted January 19, 2007 But you have three, so that's a trilemma. I wish that i could tell you SG. But there reallly isn't such thing as "dates" in the community that i live in. I know that must sound weird. But people just hook up and are bf/gf. If they are all friends, i don't think that you should date any of them. I think that you should just hang out as just friends with them and decide on which one that you enjoy being with the most. Then you can pick which one you are most attracted to, based on the chemisty between you and the other.
stace79 Posted January 19, 2007 Posted January 19, 2007 I agree here...just be friends and get to know them that way. No official dating and such, otherwise you could really hurt someone's feelings. Also, you may lose all three of them as friends OR anything romantic if they figure out what you are doing. My guess is that if none really stand out to you from the start, or at least a few weeks/month into getting to know them, none are right for you. I wish that i could tell you SG. But there reallly isn't such thing as "dates" in the community that i live in. I know that must sound weird. But people just hook up and are bf/gf. If they are all friends, i don't think that you should date any of them. I think that you should just hang out as just friends with them and decide on which one that you enjoy being with the most. Then you can pick which one you are most attracted to, based on the chemisty between you and the other.
Art_Critic Posted January 19, 2007 Posted January 19, 2007 If they are good friends and talk then you will only be able to date one of them. Good friends don't date girls that are dating their buds.. After the date with the first one they will talk and the rest will not date you because they are friends.. Any other possibility just makes you look bad.. Just pick one and live with the choice.. maybe if it doesn't pan out and some time goes by you could date another one.
westernxer Posted January 19, 2007 Posted January 19, 2007 Have them duke it out, then select the last man standing.
blind_otter Posted January 19, 2007 Posted January 19, 2007 If they are good friends and talk then you will only be able to date one of them. Good friends don't date girls that are dating their buds.. After the date with the first one they will talk and the rest will not date you because they are friends.. Any other possibility just makes you look bad.. Just pick one and live with the choice.. maybe if it doesn't pan out and some time goes by you could date another one. I agree with Art, as usual.
Salicious Crumb Posted January 19, 2007 Posted January 19, 2007 I've recently met three different guys, all very different from one another and amazing in their own right. I'm interested in dating/getting to know each of them. The problem? They're all friends. Ideally, I'd like to at least go out on one date with each of them, see which one (or two, hehe) seem to fit best, then go on another date, etc. "Narrowing them down," so to speak...as I do with everyone else. I've casually dated 3 guys at once before, but not guys that even knew each other, let alone friends. How the he!! do I figure this one out?? You don't. You run the risk of getting them mad at each other for starters. But then again we are assuming they want to date you in the first place. I would date them one at a time. If you date them in the same timeframe and one of them you get really smitten about finds out, which they will since they are friends, then I wouldn't blame him if he told you to take a flying leap. I dated a girl once who traveled a state away to see an exboyfriend. She didn't tell me she was going and I found out about it. She argued with me that she and I don't have a committment...to which my reply was. "you are correct, and thats why I am not mad at you......but if you want a committment from me, that sure as hell isn't the way to go about it." And I broke it off right there and then.
Porn_Guy Posted January 19, 2007 Posted January 19, 2007 yo! whats kickin' SG? I guess its ok for you to date all 3 of them at the same time but you'll have to tell them up front....and no sex until the other two are disqualified. Maybe you could hold an american idol style audition complete with nasty remarks and everything
silentcharon Posted January 19, 2007 Posted January 19, 2007 Hmm, I wouldn't date any one of them. That's just asking for trouble.
Author Star Gazer Posted January 19, 2007 Author Posted January 19, 2007 They each are interested. One has asked me to lunch, another for drinks, and another to a party. I think the best course of action IS the friendship route until I get to know them better. Funny, I hadn't really thought of that... Only problem is one does stand out from the crowd, but he's indicated that he would feel bad because he knows one of the other guys likes me as well. He has no idea about the 3rd. It's his loyalty to his friend that makes him even more attractive...
johan Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 Sometimes life gets messy like this. If these guys are complicating things for you, then I say f*ck em.
magichands Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 Have them duke it out, then select the last man standing. Perfect solution to a trilemma. You wouldn't want the ones with teeth missing, anyway.
magichands Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 Sometimes life gets messy like this. If these guys are complicating things for you, then I say f*ck em. I agree. Friends should stick together.
amaysngrace Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 I say f*ck em. All at the same time? Hey, one for each, um nevermind...
magichands Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 All at the same time? That's rude. Obviously they would draw lots.
amaysngrace Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 That's rude. Obviously they would draw lots. I'm having trouble comprehending what you're meaning.
magichands Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 I'm having trouble comprehending what you're meaning. I have trouble meaning something comprehensible, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. I'm stupid like that. Anyway, back to the issue of breaking up lifelong friendships. I think this is just the thing that can mix things up.
Author Star Gazer Posted January 20, 2007 Author Posted January 20, 2007 Hey now, these aren't lifelong friendships. Quite the contrary. They're just "buddies." But friends nonetheless. But friends with each one of them is all I'll be...
magichands Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 Quite the contrary. They're just "buddies." Right. For a moment I thought they might have been bosom buddies. They just share a beer, or two. Mates, if you will. It doesn't sound like there is any danger of you coming between them. That's not to say that I don't appreciate the raw beauty of Johan's suggestion, though.
magichands Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 pick the dude with the largest "equipment" Are you suggesting a line-up, or something more stealthy?
Author Star Gazer Posted January 20, 2007 Author Posted January 20, 2007 pick the dude with the largest "equipment" Alpha, how the hell am I supposed to figure out who that is while just CASUALLY dating?!?!
Porn_Guy Posted January 20, 2007 Posted January 20, 2007 Alpha, how the hell am I supposed to figure out who that is while just CASUALLY dating?!?! when you're "casually" playing with their c*ck and balls
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