twkvfx Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 Leaving out that the thoughts that count when giving someone a gift or something, can the quality of your christmas gift indicate the way of how the giver sees you of your reputation? For example, you have given someone a good quality adult watch for christmas which was affordable indicating that the quality of your friendship and relationship is at a good and adaquate level, and you also have given someone else a watch for christmas which was a plastic, digital one, which indicates that your relationsal quality in between is not that close but you know him/her for a while. The question is, leaving out the thought, can the quality of your present, birthday present, christmas present, etc, from a friend or someone nice you know, indicate the quality of the relationship and friendship? Do presents tell a lot of ones personal view of that person he/she is giving to?
Porn_Guy Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 The question is, leaving out the thought, can the quality of your present, birthday present, christmas present, etc, from a friend or someone nice you know, indicate the quality of the relationship and friendship? Sometimes it can....sometimes it can't.
Author twkvfx Posted January 18, 2007 Author Posted January 18, 2007 I remember one time I saw one of my mum's friend given my former friend a gift when she went away. She given him this necklace with a cross. I presume that by judging that kind of gift it's obvious that they're THAT close, and then they hugged, which re-enforces my theory. What did I get for christmas? A plastic digital watch. I don't care whether it's the thought that count. It's something more complex than that.
Blue Phoenix Posted January 19, 2007 Posted January 19, 2007 --"What did I get for christmas? A plastic digital watch"-- Yea I know what you mean ive had the same thing happen to me. Your at your family x-mas gathering and every one else seams to get realy cool stuff. While you open your 3rd pack of socks can make you wonder at times. But how ever I dont think they mean to do this. I know myself that some times I honestly have no idea what to get some one. But I usualy do try to always keep the gifts around the same price no matter who there for just to avoid hurt feelings. Honestly prob wasent done because they think any less of you maybe they just dident know what else to get. Im tending to lean toward gift certs as my fav to give and get just makes life easer...
Author twkvfx Posted January 19, 2007 Author Posted January 19, 2007 I'm sorry for my negativity, and I know that acting, feeling and thinking negatively won't get me any further to my intentions. It's just that I, metaphorically, been trying to chase her around to, in a way, rebuild the relational friendship in between. I feel hurt every time I fail. The following tuesday will be my last chance to finally do this cus that my cafe will close on the 25th, that is if she ever will come to the cafe, as usual as before, for an hour chat and left for a service. Why? cus mostly at sunday service I don't usually talk to her, which is a disadvantage for me cus everytime she sees me walking past she was ignorant, whereas others she wasn't (She even moved into my old house where I grew up and having to have my old bedroom! thats how I knew her). But when she comes to my parents' cafe (I had to help that time) it was the opposite. Thus I don't know if I should care more or less about the issue. She's given all the significance and credits to others but not me. It doesn't make any sense at all! I mean, for someone moved to my old house where I should get most of the significance and credits (besides her relatives) and now I have a bad reputation of being the person I'm not. I don't really know how this happened to be honest. But all I know is I have to do something about it. That is why I've posted this post. cus she has given me a christmas present which was a digital watch, and I've compared the gift to the gift that she has given to my former friend which was something looking more valuable and symbolic, a necklace with the cross.
Arabess Posted January 21, 2007 Posted January 21, 2007 The quality of my gift depends more on the finances of my pocketbook than the value I have for them in my heart. I would buy all my friends fabulous gifts...if I could afford it. And since I can't....I hope my love for them and hopeful wishes is enough.
Author twkvfx Posted January 22, 2007 Author Posted January 22, 2007 Surely the other gifts that she has given to are better quality than mine. I mean, she gave my former friend a gift which was a necklace with the cross, and it seemed valuable enough and affordable at a fair price! Anyways, tomorrow (tuesday) is my last chance in atleast have a conversation. If don't come, then I have failed and there are no other easier ways of reestablishing the friendship in between.
vanessabg Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 Sometimes it can....sometimes it can't. I agree to "Porn_Guy".
littlekitty Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 Andy, I think you over analyse and over think everything. Just make sure you talk to her. Ask her what the problem is, and tell her you value her friendship!!
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