Delicaterose00 Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 Ok. I Dont Understand What My Problem Is. I Date These Guys.. I Always Assume I Can Do Better, Either With Looks, Money, Personality.. Im Always Picky. Now Im Seeing This Guy, He Is Cute, But Skinny, He Has A Job, But Dont Make A Lot Of Money, But He Treats Me Good.... Wants To Give Me The World If He Could.. He Is Smart And Compasionate... So Why Cant I Feel The Spark??? I Mean... If I Keep Thinking There Is Better, Ill Never End Up With Anyone Right?? I Dont Know I Never Used To Be Picky Like This... All I Cared About Was Personality, Now I Care About Looks, Jobs, Cars, Money.. Im Being Shallow And I Dont Like It.. Lmao Im Afraid I Wont Be Faithful? Maybe Ill Flirt With Other Guys Cause They Might Be Better? Im Stuck And Dont Know What To Do.. Im Really Down About That. Ive Dated So Many Great Guys.. But It Seems The Ones I Want Dont Want Me And The Ones That Want Me I Dont Want.. Im 25 If Anyone Is Wondering.. Ive Had 3 Major Relatonships... My Recent Ex.. I Thought He Was My Soulmate... He Cheated So I Guess He Didnt Think So.. But Ever Since Him I Cant Feel Anything For Anyone... Am I Subconciously Still In Love With Mye X? I Dont Really Feel I Am.. But Maybe?> Help Me Understand.. Lol
LN99 Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 It sounds to me that since you have been burned by your ex, your skeptical about relatonships in general. (I know how that is, I have been there myself.) But, if you don't feel a spark for the guy you are seeing now, chances are he probably isn't right for you. I know you probably think your being picky, but your just being cautious. That can be a good thing and in some ways a bad. Its good because you are filtering out the losers and trying to avoid getting with a guy who you know is not right for you. But, the bad part is that you aren't giving people a chance. But, if there is no spark there, then its probably best you don't waste the time on something that may or may not happen for you. Sometimes though, that spark take awhile to develop. Like, for example, you may be around a guy you have no feelings for whatsoever and then suddenly one day you start to feel something. Or maybe you go for the guys who are unavailable or not into you because there is less of a threat there of getting close to someone again. You know in the back of your mind it would never work out, but the chase is fun. But, I hear you when you say that the people you have no interest in whatsoever, are the ones interested in you. I have that same problem myself. I guess the best thing you can do is hold out for something that does feel right. Then go from there. But, even though you feel like you might be missing your chance, by no means should you settle. Trust me, in the long run, thats never a good thing.(I know of people who have done this and really regret it.) Wait until you find something worth pursuing and then go for it. Plus at our age (25) its good to look at guys who have their stuff together and have a good job. I know thats one of the things I look at now, compared to when I was 20. I feel that since I have a career, the man should also. If i make good money, he should also. I want 50/50 and I certainly don't want to be supporting a guy who has no ambition. So, I hear what your saying. Hopefully someone will come along thats worth it. Its not shallow, its smart. Your just looking out for yourself.
Salicious Crumb Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 If I Keep Thinking There Is Better, Ill Never End Up With Anyone Right?? Thats right.
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