tinabean Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 Well, it has been a little over two years of my hellish relationship. I started seeing this guy I worked with. I know..mistake 1..we worked together for almost two years and I left in October to go to a different firm. Partly because it was just too difficult to work with him and also because my old firm was so small that everyone knew my business. So I thought that moving to a different part of the city, cutting off most all contact with my previous life (work friends) would enable me to make a clean break..well, not so much. We stopped talking but could only do that for about 2 weeks at a time when one of us would break down and call the other.. He is completley wrong for me. He is muslim, Im catholic. He is completley devoid of (or devoid of showing) emotion, love or bonding on any level. He manipulates me by saying everything I want to hear but then doing NOTHING in order to show me he means it. Most frustrating is when we are in an argument he says the most awful things to me...then calls hours later only to say that I made him say all that but he didn't mean it. Everything is my fault..I'm needy, I always need attention.. I guess the bottom line is he has no idea what he wants. He is 35 yrs/old (I'm 28) and he cannot seem to make a commitment to me. He doesn't want me but yet he doesn't want me to be with anyone else. Well, just on Monday he came over to my apt (which he never does) and gave me necklace from Tiffany's and poured his heart out saying how much he has been thinking about us, and he's not ready right now, but in 1 or 2 weeks he may be ready to work on us...??? He leaves and all week has been completely cold to me. He wants us to have a "date night" tomorrow night, and when I ask him why he is acting so strange he tells me I'm being annoying and I shouldn't need to be coddled (which means talked to) everyday. I know he is just screwing with my head. He keeps telling me that we are working on our relationship, but I feel like he is missing a crucial part of what a relationship entails. I believe nc would be best, but I'm also realistic in the idea that after a couple weeks pass I miss him and want to talk to him. We fight like I have never fought with anyone before, he makes me cry more than anyone has ever made me cry. Noone can tell me anything at this point that I haven't tried, thought of or know I must do..my willpower is getting stronger and I feel like I'm ready to break away, but what has been wrong with me for the last two years. I have never had trouble with men, meeting them and right now I have a bunch of guys that would do anything to be with me..yet I cannot let go of this one. Can someone just hit me with a brick to wake me up?? Does anyone know of a good hypnotist....seriously.
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