IWalkAlone Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Well....I am not saying you are not an attractive guy...so the following comments are not intended for you. But do you notice that they are offended if the guy isn't very good looking? This video kinda puts it in perspective for me: http://youtube.com/watch?v=UZHcbcr3zR0 I saw that on TV. It show how sexual harassment/creepy guy behavoir is often defined not by what the guy is doing, but how the woman reacts to it. So the sometimes only difference between a creep and a fun, intriging guy is that the fun guy is attractive or popular, and the creepy guy is not.
Author kindred_soulman Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 Hello friend, I have been reading this thread for a while now and I will admit that I did not read all of it since I have just joined this wonderful message board, I felt the need to reply to your thread! Judging from the posts I have read, it appears that you are a young man who just got out of a failed relationship due to your personality. I am very sorry to hear about that. However, from your posts, you do come off as an arrogant young man. Again, I will admit that I did not read every single post, just up to about page 5 but that is the first thing that came to my mind as I read more of your posts. You seem to spend all of your time focusing on the negatives of things so you don't see the positives. That is quite unfortunate, and I feel sorry for you. Perhaps this is why all of your relationships have failed? You seem to get defensive if someone says something that isn't quite in line with what you believe/think, yet you titled this thread "ladies... rip me apart" What is the point of making such an open-ended title if you cannot handle what people say? You don't seem ready to be dating at all, as you come off as an immature, pompous, ignorant jerk. I dislike calling people names but I cannot help but feel that you are all of these things, and more. I highly suggest that you get more perspective on people and the world around you, then go date-searching again. The whole world is not out to get you. I will include you in my prayers, friend. Cheers, - Steve Yeah, I am a pompous, arrogant jerk because I speak the truth about my life experiences. And God forbid I would say anything bad about women in general, even though it is just a byproduct of a failing society. Go back to reading your fairy tale and when you wake up someday, come talk to me.
angelbabylk Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Hey, at least you know how to stick up for yourself! That's always a good thing
Author kindred_soulman Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 I saw that on TV. It show how sexual harassment/creepy guy behavoir is often defined not by what the guy is doing, but how the woman reacts to it. So the sometimes only difference between a creep and a fun, intriging guy is that the fun guy is attractive or popular, and the creepy guy is not. I agree, but what does this have to do with my thread!??
Author kindred_soulman Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 Sand&Water is right, self less women do exsit. Not all of us are cheating druggies.. (not saying you ever said that because as you stated above you never said ALL women are this way). Like I said before, just try to focus on you for a bit. You don't seem shallow or arrogent, you just know what you want. Keep your head up.. and keep your eyes open, as I said before. You shouldn't be bashed for knowing what you want. You've had bad relationships, but you can learn from those, which is clearly what you've done. Thanks for your responses. I agree that not all women are like this, but based on my experiences I have encountered many that are. This is what really frustrates me. It's like after you filter out the cheaters, druggies, gold diggers and selfish women there's not much left. Usually the good ones are already HAPPILY married.... The fact that many women relationship hop is a big frustration also. I won't give up, but the "I don't care anymore" feeling is really taking hold. While I embrace it, I hope it does not manifest itself in a negative way - unless it's in this forum lol.
serial muse Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Can you read? I can only date who is available and wants to date. 95% of them fall into this category.... I can only chose from what is available and what happens to be available is women who are attached in some way, cheaters and druggies. And no this is not a stereotype, it is a cold hard fact of what I have experienced. So if I never dated women with these issues then I would date maybe once every 5 years. It's not poor judgment, the odds are stacked against me to begin with. Poor judgement would be staying with these women instead of kicking them to the curb. And once again, I never said ALL women anything..... In order for something to be a stereotype you must think that ALL of something is a certain way. Please read, think, then post. Look, crazy man, you JUST said: I can only chose from what is available and what happens to be available is women who are attached in some way, cheaters and druggies. And no this is not a stereotype, it is a cold hard fact of what I have experienced. uh huh. and then you immediately followed with: And once again, I never said ALL women anything..... In order for something to be a stereotype you must think that ALL of something is a certain way. um. so that cold hard fact isn't a stereotype, except for the part where ALL of the women who are available are that? stereotype, according to American Heritage Dictionary: "A conventional, formulaic, and oversimplified conception, opinion, or image." stereotype, according to Oxford English Dictionary: "a preconceived and over-simplified idea of the characteristics which typify a person or thing." stereotype, according to Encarta World English Dictionary: "an oversimplified standardized image of a person or group" i believe i called you out on your "95%" of women statement before = gross, moronic oversimplification = stupid stereotype. please, try to think before you post, as well. try, in fact, to think at all. seriously, i'm quite sure that deep down, you know you're being an ass. and you are clearly not ready to date anyone even halfway decent; you'd hurt the he!! out of her with your bitterness. so i hope you take some time to perhaps consider therapy for your issues before hurting someone. you are a poisonous person right now.
Author kindred_soulman Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 you are clearly not ready to date anyone even halfway decent; Apparently, I never was.
Star Gazer Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Look, crazy man... :lmao: :lmao: Listen, Kindred - You want to categorize women as evil, cheating, lying, druggies, whatever, based on YOUR experiences. Ever consider the fact that the only common denominator in your relationships is YOU? You're just picking the WRONG women - and that's not THEIR fault, it's yours. You've admitted to willingly getting involved with these liars, cheaters, druggies, etc. They haven't painted themselves to be angels... Most of the people who are single on this board (and even some that are married) have been in bad, bad, baaaaaaaaaaaaad relationships with not-so-great people. I am one of them. But you don't see me walking around man-bashing the way you are woman-bashing, and TRUST ME, I've had it worse than what you've described. I agree with Serial 1000000%. You are POISON right now and in deep need of some serious therapy. Please, please...get help.
tokyo Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 I saw that on TV. It show how sexual harassment/creepy guy behavoir is often defined not by what the guy is doing, but how the woman reacts to it. So the sometimes only difference between a creep and a fun, intriging guy is that the fun guy is attractive or popular, and the creepy guy is not. And? Guess what, if a woman finds a man attractive she will also sleep with him. And if she doesn't and he forces her to it's called rape. Yes, people allow others to do certain things if they feel attracted to them. And, it's not always looks that define what people find appealing and attractive. I absolutely do not find people attractive who use terms such as "substandard" to describe other people they don't find attractive. I would also like to remark that it's even worse if they heavily criticize people for certain flaws which they seem to possess in abundance themselves. Furthermore I would like to refer any kind of complaints which my aforementioned statement has surely arisen to those manly posters here on LS who never tire to proclaim that it is absolutely normal for a guy to put looks first just as it is normal for women to prefer money and personality.
Author kindred_soulman Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 Listen, Kindred - You want to categorize women as evil, cheating, lying, druggies, whatever, based on YOUR experiences. And the problem is? Ever consider the fact that the only common denominator in your relationships is YOU? Yeah, it kind of has to be. I mean I want to the store earlier, drove to work, and the common denominator was me. Every where I go I will be the denominator, so i don't see your point. I guess I just have a knack for picking bad women, I wouldn't know where I would get the idea that many women have major issues after the last 10 I dated. I have never been to therapy, never will. Seems more like your thing since you mention it so much.
Star Gazer Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Furthermore I would like to refer any kind of complaints which my aforementioned statement has surely arisen to those manly posters here on LS who never tire to proclaim that it is absolutely normal for a guy to put looks first just as it is normal for women to prefer money and personality. How long did you spend thumbing through the thesaurus to come up with that mumbo jumbo (found in that same book next to "crap")?
Author kindred_soulman Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 And? it is absolutely normal for a guy to put looks first just as it is normal for women to prefer money and personality. Where is this normal woman you speak of?
tokyo Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Where is this normal woman you speak of? You want a woman who wants money?? Please be aware that these wise words from my previous post did not spring from my creative imagination and I do not support them. I'd like to add that you do not sound that bad to me, there are probably way more guys here who are a lot more bitter, but I also haven't read everything. And anybody who wants a selfless person should start with being selfless him/herself.
tokyo Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 How long did you spend thumbing through the thesaurus to come up with that mumbo jumbo (found in that same book next to "crap")? You surely have spent enough time on LS to have noticed that some of our male fellows think like this, haven't you?
Star Gazer Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 You surely have spent enough time on LS to have noticed that some of our male fellows think like this, haven't you? I wasn't arguing with your opinion, only making fun of the way you put the words together to express it. You tried to sound "smart," but didn't even put them together in a proper sentence.
Author kindred_soulman Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 I wasn't arguing with your opinion, only making fun of the way you put the words together to express it. You tried to sound "smart," but didn't even put them together in a proper sentence. Since this is english composition and not a forum, your sentence should read: You tried to sound smart; however, you didn't even put them together in a proper sentence. Notice the removal of the quotes, a proper conjunction, and the use of a comma and semicolon in the appropriate places.
tokyo Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 I wasn't arguing with your opinion, only making fun of the way you put the words together to express it. You tried to sound "smart," but didn't even put them together in a proper sentence. "have given rise to" What do you expect from a non-native speaker?
Star Gazer Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Since this is english composition and not a forum, your sentence should read: You tried to sound smart; however, you didn't even put them together in a proper sentence. Notice the removal of the quotes, a proper conjunction, and the use of a comma and semicolon in the appropriate places. You are so ridiculous. Please just.... go away.
Star Gazer Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 "have given rise to" What do you expect from a non-native speaker? For crying out loud, I was TEASING you. Hence the freakin' ":D "!!! Sarcasm, people. Let's not forget what it is!! That one quote was completely different from anything else you've ever written, so I thought you were trying to set it apart. It looked like you put it together using a thesaurus. Haven't you ever seen someone use the wrong words or in the wrong tense/context? Sorry, Tokyo. No offense intended. Shake?
Author kindred_soulman Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 You are so ridiculous. Please just.... go away. Last I checked this is a thread started by me.
tokyo Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Sorry, Tokyo. No offense intended. Shake? Ok. Shake hands.
Star Gazer Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Last I checked this is a thread started by me. Unless you enjoy writing in the passive voice, your response should read, "Last time I checked I started this thread."
Star Gazer Posted February 1, 2007 Posted February 1, 2007 Ok. Shake hands. :D I love LS long-timers.
Author kindred_soulman Posted February 1, 2007 Author Posted February 1, 2007 :D I love LS long-timers. DIE! DIE! DIE!
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