Maria33 Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 Okay, there is this great guy I met. We went out for several weeks, had a great time, got along and I really like him. He is having some issues in his life right now and is trying to get things together. He has told me he needs some time to work things out. We haven't talked much but I know that he's trying. He has a crazy ex and some other things going on. He likes me and wants me to wait until things get calmed down. But, because of all of it, we aren't really communicating right now. I think he's worth waiting for. I think things could be really great between us. But, he has to get things straightened out or it will never work. What I want to know is, should I wait for him? It's not like I don't have a few months to wait and see what happens. I have things in my own life that need to be taken care of too. Like my divorce, it's not final yet, but will be soon. Is it stupid to wait for someone who you don't know for sure it will work out? I have my own issues and this time would probably be good for me too. It has been so far. The last few weeks I have been so sad because I miss him. But, I have been working on getting my own life straightened out for the best. What is your advice? Like I said, he is a great guy. He has many things about him that I truly want in a man. I really want to wait and see what happens. Things should be better within the next two months. What would you do?
norajane Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 Feel free to date him again if/when he's ready, but date other people in the meantime. You never know what will happen, either with him or you, while you're waiting.
konfuzd Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 I wouldn't put my life on hold for him or anything. I'd put him on the back burner, if something else comes along, go with it, have fun. If he sees that there are other opportunities for you, and he might miss out it might put a fire under his heels and get him sorted out quickly. Perhaps you might even find something better, and someone who's available now in the meantime.
Sand&Water Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 RE: What I want to know is, should I wait for him? My Advice: Wait for him, with open arms. IF you truly believe the connection, attraction, and compatibility is awesome, then by all means wait for him. Great men should be cherished. On the other hand, don't enclose yourself around this man. Date. Date. Be open to outside chances, and opportunities from other men. Good Luck, Sand&Water
stace79 Posted January 18, 2007 Posted January 18, 2007 I have not seen much good come to anyone on this board for waiting around for a man to make a decision. The saddest thing women fail to realize is that love does not mean waiting around for someone else to realize he loves you. Breaks my heart to say that, even, but it's true.
Author Maria33 Posted January 18, 2007 Author Posted January 18, 2007 RE: My Advice: Wait for him, with open arms. IF you truly believe the connection, attraction, and compatibility is awesome, then by all means wait for him. Great men should be cherished. Sand&Water Thank you for saying that. I've met several men over the last six months. Most of them have been players. This is one of the good guys. He's trying to get things worked out so that we can spend time together again. He's lacking self confidence due to his ex. I'm afraid if I do date someone else and he finds out, he will just totally back away from me. We have mutual friends and it wouldn't take much for him to find out. I don't want that to happen. I don't want to risk losing a chance at something good with him to go out with someone who I don't know has any qualities I want. I waited this long, I think I can wait another month or two without thinking I'm missing out on something. Then, if it doesn't work, I can get out there again. Like I said before, I need a little alone time myself. I have kids and a job and a house and my own self confidence to work on. Thanks for your ideas. If you have any more please tell me!
Author Maria33 Posted January 22, 2007 Author Posted January 22, 2007 I wouldn't put my life on hold for him or anything. I'd put him on the back burner, if something else comes along, go with it, have fun. If he sees that there are other opportunities for you, and he might miss out it might put a fire under his heels and get him sorted out quickly. Perhaps you might even find something better, and someone who's available now in the meantime. I still miss this guy. But, this weekend a nice guy who I've noticed before, asked me out. We've spoken a few times at the place we hang out at sometimes. He asked me to go out with him, and I said yes. We went to dinner tonight and had a great time. He said he would love to go out with me again. I would like that too. Thanks for reminding me to keep things open. Like you said you never know! I've spent the last 3 weeks being miserable, it was great to go out and have fun with someone.
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